So where's the harm in a white girl having herself an Asian Man fetish?
At AMWW Magazine, we talk a lot about how Asian men can go out there and get the girl they want. But we haven’t yet asked it’s equally as important question:
What White Girls Should You Avoid At All Cost?
So let’s take a look shall we? And who better to be your guide than the I- Heather- the girl who brought you the “Asian Boys Are Better” t-shirt!
Believe it or not, there are a lot of girls like me that prefer Asian guys.
Throughout the years, I’ve befriended many of them and seen so many similarities and differences. They’ve helped me understand my own preference, and I’ve been able to relate to them in ways I can’t relate to other people.
It’s refreshing, honestly, to be able to talk about Japanese bands, Korean actors, or Chinese pop and not have to go into any background information. They know what I’m talking about and are usually just as passionate, if not more so, than I am about it.
Take precaution with this kind of girl.
(And I’m not talking about the prophylactic kind of precaution here.)
Allow me to explain. There are so many girls out there that idolize the “ideal Asian man.”
She has a full blown case of Yellow Fever and complete Asian Man Fetish. Sounds great, right? But wait, let’s continue dissecting the psychology of this white girl…
This type of woman probably found her way into liking Asian guys via anime or Kpop and was influenced by these mediums to think that Asian men are a certain way. They probably tried teaching themselves Korean or Japanese and have a shallow understanding of whatever Asian country they are infatuated with. And many of these Yellow Fever girls have very specific tastes in the country of their Asian Man.
Starting to sound a little bitter weirder, eh?
When they think of an Asian guy, they’re thinking nice hair, lean yet muscular figure and pale skin. To them, Asian guys look like Taeyang, T.O.P. and Rain.
Essentially, these girls have fallen in love with the Hollywood ofthe East – they think that, since celebrities in South Korea or Japan are good-looking, the regular people must look that good, too. By that logic, people in the States must look like Brad Pitt and Megan Fox, but reasoning escapes this type of girl and they stand firm in their convictions.
Yellow Fever white girls have VERY specific traits that they're looking for in an "Asian man."
Depending on the case, a girl can be even more extreme than that. I’ve taken par t in a plethora of conversations where girls were talking about their “preferences in Asian men.” The responses were along the lines of “I like Japanese men because their noses have better shape,” and “I love Korean guys because their hair is the best,” or something ridiculous like that.
Girls with this type of Asian Man fetish are starting to sound a little less appealing, now aren’t they? But there’s more…
NEVER were Southeast Asian countries mentioned whether from Thailand, Viet Nam, or Singapore, but that has little to do with the attractiveness of the men from those countries and everything to do with the media, or lack thereof, that comes out of them. Sometimes they’d even exclude the Chinese!
This kind of girl is now generalizing and stereotyping under the guise of being “open-minded.”
She’ll date Asian men, but she has a very narrow scope on what an Asian man actually is. Just as breeds of dogs are known for certain traits and temperaments, so too, in her mind, are Asian men.
I honestly had to convince one girl that not all Korean men beat their wives.
Another girl was stunned to find that a really handsome mutual friend was Viet because she hadn’t thought that Southeast Asian men could be attractive.
I’m not saying all girls that like Kpop or anime are like this. Some of the coolest girls I’ve ever met are able to tone down their interests and not let it interfere with their perceptions of Asian guys. All I’m saying is, in the rare instances where you’re hitting on a girl and she can reference more Asian pop-culture or speak more Chinese than you can, be careful.
She may not like you for anything more than your ethnicity. It’s a very shallow attraction, and any Asian guy could probably do it for her.
Then again, she could know Chinese not because she’s obsessed but because she dated a Chinese guy who taught her the language. She could listen to Japanese rock because she lived in Japan for a few years. She could love Korean movies because Asian Vengeance films have become their own genre on Netflix and she just picked them up one day.
Finding a girl like me with this preference is, in my opinion, going to be very rare. You may never come across her in a bar or club.
You may, however, cross paths, and you may want to get to know her better. If she likes Asian cultures but can function in the American one, you’ve found a winner.
If she’s just a tad TOO obsessed with Asian things, you may want to think twice before pursuing anything further!
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I love Asian men, but this article rings so true! I can’t stand when girls objectify Asian guys like that, only ever looking out for the one who resembles Lee Minho or TOP, or is Korean, or Japanese because most girls with yellow fever only have a shallow interest in these nationalities!
I liked Kpop for a long time because the music is actually really good, so when I introduced my friends to it, and they saw the attractive idols and singers, they started swooning over every Asian male they saw, attempting to pronounce hilariously terrible basic phrases, quickly losing interest if a guy didn’t have a perfect nose or wasn’t over 6′ or wasn’t 100% Korean. Then, maybe I’m a bit of a Yellow Fever snob but it irritates me when people are so ignorant. Or worse, when there’s a bunch of Asian guys and a WEEABOO *shudder* or an average White girl, and she expects them all to be falling at her feet just because she is white.
The 2 OR 3 hottest Asian men I personally know are Vietnamese and Chinese RESPECTIVELY. I have been to both China and Korea and I would say on the average street full of people there are more handsome Chinese guys than Koreans, though both races have produced equally stunning people.
those chicks are really irritating. i am a 1.5 gen. krn-cdn [100% krn born but raised mostly in Canada], 6’0 tall, athletic, muscular, good looking above average [from what i hear], and have artistic/music-related skills, martial arts abilities as well. [no braggin intended]
i hate it when non-asians/asian ladies hit on me just because i am korean or because they like asian stuff and because i am asian they assume i would like anime and such.
frankly, ppl that know me or have just met me, see me as a whitewashed asian and i think so too. i am not really into asian/korean cultures but i still embrace my heritage. however, @ the end of the day, i always feel more white rather than an asian lol. dont get me wrong, im still damn proud of bein krn and i do some krn/asian stuff like martial arts, listen to kpop, watch kdramas, etc just out of curiousity for my country, but since im 1.5 gen, i know that my true identity is white not asian.
there might be a little confusion here, however, if you get it you do or else you dont then you dont lol.
so thats my story =P
and oh i dislike anime, lmao.
I love this….. I love his skin, his body, his scent, his eyes………oh yes, I’ve been married 33 years to this amazing Japanese man. Long before anime or it became cool to date Asians. One thing I will admit to, and maybe it’s just me, but I don’t find men of my own race attractive. I’m Caucasian.
SELF HATRED written all over your small article !
Firstly, that’s total BS becuase white are more naturally masculine and have bigger packages than the small asian ones.
Secondly, if you date black men and other non asian men you’ll see that of all the major six races in the world, asian men are the least NATURALLY masculine ! Why ? bec. of their oestrogen filled feeminine features and small dongs !
I know what you mean (and can relate to a lot of what you’re saying) but I think describing yourself as “white” racially would be totally inaccurate. Rather, I think what you meant is that culturally, you’re Canadian/North American.
Let’s try to stop equating American = White or White = American yeah? :3
Love, Asian American girl
Interesting article, however the statistic from match.com or any online dating site strongly suggest the otherwise. Asian men is the LEAST preference among all race of women especially Caucasian women. The first pick a Caucasian lady is more likely to be white and then black, then latino and Indians. For African American women are more likely go for African American men and White men, then Latinos. For Hispanic women are more likely go for Latino first and White, then black.
Sadly, Asian males are not even on their list. What does that mean? It means the reality shows that dating field is a server challenge for Asian men in Western world.
It has to do with the stereotype and the culture differences. American culture heavily defines masculinity, which is the opposite of the Eastern culture. Eastern culture encourage the harmony, everything is in between. Hence, a traditional asian man is less likely to pay extra attention to make their physical appearance look “tough” as much as the white men or black men do.
But people ask why so many asian women would go for white men?
Western culture influences vs Biological Factors
From my understanding, it has to do with the media. (my opinion)
White men are the supper hero, the superman, the batman the spider man, White men are the hottest from tv shows, the best lovers. So many women just fall into that without even realize they are just men who have many flaws.
Biological factors
On the other hand, indeed, white men are tend to be taller than us (Asian)
For women, according to studies (Discover Channel: Physical appeal 2009) the strongest men’s strongest physically attraction for women is the HEIGHT. A rich (short) asian man with game could have many non-asian or asian girlfriends but believe or not HE IS NOT LIKELY TO HAVE A STABLE LONG-TERM RELATIONSHIP with women. Personally I believe Height is the biggest obstacle for asian men dating inter-racially.
Myth: Asian men’s face is just a huge turnoff for non-asian females. I believe it is bias but asian facial feature is special and some non-asian girls think they look cute.
What to do (ASian men?)
It is interesting to know there are very few non-asian females like asian males.
I am an asian (Chinese), I am very out-going. I am only 6 ft but I have a nice V shape body. I am open to females among all races. Yes, I do love asian girls. However, it is my beliefs that asian men must go out and complete with the others, white dudes especially. I am talking to the younger generation asian men. Guys, go out and play balls instead of sitting at home play video game. I believe asians have so much potentials. I am also glad to see many asian guys are getting much taller and bigger than their parents. The goal is not about who gets the most girls. My true intention is try to make asian men become healthier and attractive in order to survive, and even excel. It is not about going to night club to score as many women as you can. It is how to attract the one you love the most and offspring.
Mr. Jaisingioro,
There is a rapidly growing niche of girls and women that like Asian men. Do a facebook search for group names like “I wanna date an Asian hottie” or “All I want is a legit Asian boyfriend.” You’ll find that, while match.com and eharmony may not be very promising, facebook and other sites like womenforasianmen.com are.
My best guess is that an older generation of people are using sites like match.com, whereas a younger crowd has yet to venture into dating sites. As such, you get skewed results and they are all based upon age. Again, that is my best guess, and I base it off the ages of the girls on the facebook groups.
I find that the reason why Asian men are starting to become popular with girls my age is because of KPop. A writer on lastfm collected data on the stats of the users and all the music they listened to. Bands like SHINee and Big Bang were insanely popular among women in their twenties. This popularity didn’t really extend past the age of 25. While this doesn’t necessarily mean these girls also like Asian men, I find it to be a possible indicator.
But, again, these are sometimes the kind of girls I warn about. It’s best to take precaution. But, since birds of a feather flock together, I have come across a multitude of girls that love Asian men and can assure you that this mindset is contagious.
WHY have naems like “I wanna date an Asian hottie” or “All I want is an asian BF’….isn’t it odd to Heather, Do you find All I want is a Black BG, or I wanna date an Latino man ? REACHING TO A TARGET MARKET OF YELLOW FEVER GILS’ ARE WE ? !
Your not only Bi or Near Bi sexual but your also brain dead ! You’ll always be a Yellow Fever girl like all other ABNORMAL non asian women who HAVE/ ARE/ WILL BE looking for the ‘least of all men’ !
and isn’t k-pop CULTURAL Heather ? making women who are in to it to have YELLOW FEVER’ ? !
Oh, you too Heather !!!!!!!!!!!! Can’t DENY THAT ONE CAN WE ?
Great post, but I do want to mention there is interracial fetish/fixations across every border and nationality. I’m half Mexican, and I can tell you Latinas have become very popular with white guys because they think we’re all like Jennifer Lopez and Salma Hayek. 🙂
But of course, Stephanie and Jennidar. My experience is limited to Asian “fetish,” however, so that was all I discussed
Still in DENIAL Heather dear ? ! MOST PROBABLY YOU’LL GO TO YOUR GRAVE WITH THIS YELLOW FETISH, Unless you try one or more of the five races of men that don’t have Oestrogen filled feminine features and small dicks ! But what can I say, once Bi or Near bi sexual, always bi or near bi !
DEEPEST SYMPATHIES !
I want to echo what Stephanie said below. Some people are naturally attracted to people who look or act differently than they do or they’re influenced when the media portrays a particular ethnic or geographic group in a favorable light. I’m from Tennessee and speak with a very twangy accent. When I visit my company’s HQ in New York, the guys there fall all over themselves to get next to the southern girl. They think I’m a Daisy Duke!
The word “fetish” has a negative connotation…it makes it sound like liking Asian men is wrong and abnormal. I would’ve probably chosen a better word. As a white girl who prefers Asian men, I find it extremely offensive to both myself and the Asian men I like when this word is used.
I will confess to similar ways of thinking like the people mentioned in this article when I was younger, but as I grew older and learned more about relationships and men in general, my point of view changed. If all you used for this article was the opinions of teenage girls, then it would make more sense. As you said, older women rarely think like this.
I’d also like to know how many people you talked to to get your information for this article. If it was only a few, or you only went to websites where people with this P.O.V congregate, I hardly think it’s a fair representation of AM/WF supporters.
And what of the Asian male? Do they put white women on a pedestal, only liking them because of their hair or eyes or body? That would be interesting to look at as well.
good points Hayri2011, but do you know that you are either Bisexual or Near Bisexual for beeing attracred asian males. Ask Heather all about it, as she know’s my oppinions inside out on this one !
What i mean is, that of all the six races of males, asian males are the least masculine ! Why ? bec. of the amount of Oestrogen filled bodies, and their feminine features. let’s not forget their small dongs. so even though your points to Heather are good, YOU FALL IN TO THE SAME CATEGORY AS HER !
Reading your biography, pretty much all of the reasons you listed on why you prefer Asian men were superficial reasons based on appearance. So your examples of what girls with “Asian fetishes” will do or say on here are a little hypocritical.
Actually, my biography says I am unsure of as to why I like Asian men. I listed physical appearances as examples but then made it clear I didn’t know.
My dating experiences are not limited to East-Asian men (i.e. Japan, Korea, etc). My longest relationship was with a man from the Philippines, a country most people exclude when listing Asian matters.
YOU ARE ‘BEYOND’ CHILDISH BABYGIRL !
You HAVE YELLOW FEVER ! did you know most philipino boys put some kind of seed under their foreskins to make the penis head look bigger ? check it out, it was a tv program ! All you have done is been with asians ! Have you ever been with men from the other 5 major races of the world ? And beleive me, all five are more NATURALLY masculine than your yellow coloured she boys with small dicks ! STILL IN DENIAL ?
WOAH WOAH WOAH WOAH..I Only date Asian guys not to say I only did ever. I might be able to list more pop culture and speak minimal Chinese WHICH is more then I can say for some Chinese guys BUT by no means is it a fetish. Its what i’m naturally drawn to look at when i’m out and still regardless past looks if theres nothing in common it doesnt work.
SURE i’m INTO Asian culture and Sometime more then the guys I meet but gosh a person is a person and and if you do not click with them or have the same wants in life then they arent for you regardless of the color.
Then this article is not referring to you 😉
Great. So where do I find you, then? 🙂
I do appreciate the insight and the forewarning, as I’m sure other guys do as well (I apologize in advance if I sound just a bit cynical here), but this sounded more like you bragging about the “correct” reasons why you prefer Asian guys and how these other “victims” of yellow fever may perhaps have completely “misguided” notions of us Asian men, liking us for all the wrong reasons.
But will you tell me that I’m wrong if I like eating at Irish Pubs just because I feel like I’m sitting in Dublin for a “pint of me favorite ale?”
Thanks nonetheless for your advice… and I will keep it in mind, but until the day when the Asian cultures are fully understood and accepted for what they truly are, I’ll still smile when I see white girls lining the theatre to watch Ninja Assassin just because of Rain. 🙂
Those crazy white girls and their Asian fetishes… tsk tsk. 😉
This was not meant for self-advertisement. I’m sorry if it came across that way.
I say fetish because I have way too much experience with these kinds of girls. I interact with them on a daily basis and, I’m sorry, but I stick to my guns. When I hear girls say “Non-Koreans need not apply” or “I’ve dated Chinese, Japanese and Korean, I don’t need to broaden my horizons anymore; gotta catch ’em all!” I get concerned as to what they are really attracted to – the man or the culture? Of course it’s going to be a combination of both, but…I do not say these things without experience.
I try to flip it to the inverse – Asian men that like only White women. Sometimes, that’s literally all they’re attracted to. But when they put White women on a pedestal of worship? …it’s creepy. And I’ve been there. It makes me feel uncomfortable.
I just see it from both sides and try to get a feel for each individual. There is an incredibly fine line between obsessed and functional. It just depends on the Asian man and what he can handle.
Is this article a personal advertisement for how marvelous you are? “Finding a girl like me with this preference is, in my opinion, going to be very rare. You may never come across her in a bar or club.” What really motivated you to write that.
Oh by the way, women in general, are that picky about every type of guy not just Asian guys. I have met the same girls talking about any guy like that. As far as learning the language or being passionate about something, well people do this all the time, I do not think it makes them bad relationship material.
You say beware, but beware of what? What are the consequences?
I am not buying it.
That’s your opinion and you’re welcome to it. Thank you for sharing 🙂
I feel (hope) the author meant to exaggerate to make a point. It hits home and true to some extent. (Yet I find this quite hilarious, because it is true.) I’m sure (or hope) these women never get dates with Asian men. Its funny that a White woman wrote this, not an Asian man.
I’m a WW that has “yellow fever”. I will admit having an interest on Asian pop culture influenced this. (I don’t expect or want every Asian guy to look like Gackt/Rain working a Japanese host club, or built like Bruce Lee.) I like to dress up as my favorite anime or game character for conventions, parties and Halloween. (With my wink and peace sign cosplay-pose.) I listen to Japanese and Korean music. I love the Japanese “GAL” image, want to go clothes shopping in Shibuya again. I even make boxed lunches with heart shaped rice for my partner and I.*
I already sound like a pocky-hungry, tentacle-loving, cat ear and sailor moon uniform wearing Japanophile-weeaboo. In simpler terms, Wapanese if you are not from the dark areas of teh internetz. (Crap, I’m a Japanophile..)
So what if I will admit only being attracted to East-Asian/Pacific Islander men 90% of the time? I like what I like. I have a sense of humor and don’t deny it.
I think these personality traits of mine make me attractive to Asian and Asian-American men. because
1) I’m able to make fun of my “Yellow Fever” .
2) Anyone being interested in someone else (Example me being attracted to Asian men.) should give confidence to an individual because its flattering, amirite? (I am always flattered if someone is interested in me-regardless.)
I’m pretty sure that this makes me attractive/apporachable to Asian/Asian American males.
Any Asian dudes reading this, please correct me if I’m wrong.
People who have their preference (Very exclusive/particular about who they date.) can come off as creepy of they are too serious about it. (Like the example of ‘This kind of White Woman’ in the article.) There are cool Japanophiles and uncool Japanophiles. There are cool people, and uncool people.
I have been dating my boyfriend for over 5 years (and more) now. We are very respectful, supportive, honest, and loving relationship. (Our sex life has always been great too!) He is Asian-American (Not FROM Asia, but raised in the U.S) On the flip side, he is an Asian man that is a Euro-phile. It works out.
FYI- My preference is Asian American men. (When I’m in a serious relationship.) I hate dealing with miscommunication. I am open to whatever makes me happy.
*Just to mention, not every *insert any gender/race here* cosplayer, person that likes Asian pop and Asian fashion is interested in Asian men or women.
/soapbox
That’s what I was trying to get at – the ones that are too serious are just…too much. You enjoy cosplay. So do a plethora of Asian men. Those are the Asian men that are probably going to be interested in you and vice versa, as you have similar hobbies. Perhaps an Asian man that goes to night clubs, watches Jersey Shore and plays Lacrosse may find a cosplayer to be too obsessed. It’s all relative.
And that’s the beauty of it – every person’s fine line of “obsessed” and “respectful” is different. It just depends on what you and your partner can handle. You’ve found something that works for you and you’re able to enjoy your hobbies with someone you love. Awesome. It’s just not everyone’s thing.
Just like the opinions expressed in my article make some waves, your preferences will too. Such is human nature.
Thank you MS. FREUD !
Sorry to hear that you’re Bi or Near Bisexual ! See, with six major races of the world, and you to pick on the least masculine race, pity ! So, you like small dicks I see !
why are asian men bottom of the list. simple, they have oestrogen filled, feminine featured features and small dicks. i’m surprised that you’re European, bec European women go for real men ! You fell thru’ the cracks becase you’re not straight !
@WhiteWoman, that has to be one of the most well thought out (and extensive) comments we’ve had on this article in a while. Thank you so much for participating.
I just want to point out, however, that the “Yellow Fever” phenomenon when it applies to white girls, is that they it’s for a specific subset of Asian men. When WM say they want AFs, they want them regardless of if they’re Japanese, Korean, Chinese, etc.
With WFs with yellow fever, it’s the case (not all, but in many cases) that they only specifically want Korean men or Japanese men. Chinese, Thai, Vietnamese, and Filipinos need not apply as they don’t count as “true” Asian men.
In my experience, if a white woman has been with an Asian man, I can almost always romantically connect with her if there’s sexual chemistry. 9 times out of 10.
However, if she has hardcore yellow fever “I love only Asians, anime, and cosplay!” then I’ve never been successful. Partly due to the sheer rarity of that preference, but also as a Vietnamese man, I don’t fall into her definition of “an attractive Asian.” Which doesn’t bug me as most women don’t find me classically handsome and therefore I’ve learned never to depend on that as part of my confidence, charm or Game.
It’s just that one of the points I feel this article points out is that too many Asian men are hoping that they find a white girl with yellow fever or loves Asian men. You should see how many desperate Asian guys are trying to email us to get dates with Heather and all. Even though statistically speaking, interracial dating on the internet is the absolute WORST for Asian men.
So even if they do find that girl- whether she be white or black- he won’t fall into her “type” even though he’s Asian himself.
Not necessarily so…
I’m a huge fan of everything Japanese, but my man is Vietnamese. And that wasn’t even a factor in my decision to be with him. ^_^
Again, this doesn’t apply for every single case. This is not black and white. J.T. is just giving his experiences with dating, and, unfortunately, he has had no success with the girls mentioned above. Even though you have been open-minded, the ones he ran into were not.
Wish there were woman like Heather around my region…
There are many facebook groups dedicated to women that like Asian men. Join a few and participate in some discussions…you never know who you’ll meet!
i know eh.
haha oh I soooo know what this article means!
I mean, yes, I like Kpop and Jrock and Asian music. I love foreign music in general, it’s kind of my ‘thing’ lol (I like music from Europe and South America as well). but you gotta admit some music from Asia is the best out there! and being attracted to Asian men, obviously I think all those Asian rockstars and celebrities are very attractive! not gonna deny that. I don’t expect all Asian men to be able to look and dance like Taeyang though lol that’s ridiculous. and they don’t have to be like that for me to be attracted to and want to date them. and to be honest I’m not that crazy about Asian movies or anime or fashion, I mean it’s okay, but I’m mostly only ‘obsessed’ with the music scene haha. anyways no more boring background information about me and on to the point…
BUT I have a friend who is an absolute ‘Koreaboo’ aka obsessed with anything Korean and Korean men. she’s super fun to hang out with and we do have a bit in common of course (like both like Asian men! 😉 )… but god she sometimes just drives me nuts with her constant gabbing about Korean celebs and how she wants circle lenses and Korean clothes and what not! I mean, yeah, I am interested in certain aspects of Asian culture and Asian men… but not like THAT! haha! and I certainly don’t try to be or dress ‘Asian’ and I can’t eat with chopsticks to save my life! there’s a fine line between being interested/appreciating aspects of Asian culture and being obsessed and weeaboo/Koreaboo.
and then she’s always talking about how she’s gonna get herself an Asian (or more like Korean… lol) man and what not… but wow I don’t know what one out there would be able to stand her after a while honestly! lol! I’ve been very close to telling her a few times to try to ‘tone the Asian obsession down’ if she wants to successfully date great Asian guys, but I can’t bring myself to tell her… haha.
so yes, I agree… unless you want some white chick running around trying to look like that cutesy type of Asian girl and calling you “Oppa!” while talking about everything Asian pop culture with pocky in her mouth all the time… stay away! haha!
but there’s nothing wrong with girls who just have a chill interest in such things and preference for Asian men, girls like the writer of this article and I. only thing I got to disagree about is that I don’t think girls like us are very rare at all.
That was the point I was trying to make – CHILL interest. As in, don’t let the love of the culture or music or whatever interfere with the preference in Asian men. If a girl says she likes Asian men, she better like Viet, Cambodian, Thai and Laotian in addition to Korean and Japanese. This seems like a “no duh” statement, but there are way too many girls I know that say “I’m only attracted to Koreans.”
Me saying I’m only attracted to Asians sounds weird enough. Imagine me saying I’m only attracted to Koreans. Anyone living outside that border is unattractive? I can’t believe that.
I’m finding that there are more and more girls that like Asian guys, but they seem to be few and far between. Maybe it’s because I live in Utah but I definitely feel very alone with my preference in my vicinity.
Glad to see someone understood my article without thinking I was self-advertising…was not the case.
I’m a Korean guy in NYC. In my life, I lived in Russia, South Korea, and the U.S.
I don’t really see anything wrong with having preferences for certain ethnic groups or cultures. I’m not saying this because this benefits me in anyway for being a certain kind of ethnic “Asian”. It’s because I am also biased towards to what I’m attracted to. Just like a girl with “Japanese Guy Fetish” or w/e. It’s unfortunate if it’s due to the facade of artificial pop culture, but there are people out there with legitimate reasons for their preferences.
Personally I Like both Asian/Caucasian women and tend to date or mingle with both, But that doesn’t mean I’m attracted to every race of Asian or Caucasian women. Out of experience I developed preferences for certain cultures and certain ethnic features. I’m not a bigot, I just know what I like and most comfortable with. I see nothing wrong with it. When I date Asian girls, it’s usually predominately Korean women (common culture, language, etc), and not another Asian ethnicity. When I date non Asian, I.E Caucasian, I’m also picky. I tend to gravitate towards Slavic and Baltic women because they have certain physical features that other Caucasian women don’t have. A lot of them pull off a “Almost Asian but not look” due to their physical features or style of dress, which I’m very fond of. I noticed they fit me mentally and culturally more then American women, and often times more then Korean women.
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ahaha, gotcha! ppl and their misunderstandings lol…
LMFAO -_-; wow lol i’ve seen that. since you cant bring yoruself to tell her lol i could do that for you and i am a 1.5 generation Korean-Cdn Man ;P
There is also another viewpoint here.
I personally don’t think that there is anything wrong with Asian Men dating White Women that only like East Asian Men or men from only one particular East Asian culture. I think that they should do as they choose and date who they want to, and that these White Women and Other Races of Women who only like East Asian Men or East Asian Men of only one particular culture should like as they choose also. Here are some more examples to illustrate my point:
There are some White Women who only like Black Men and even some White Men who only like Black Women, and some White people are exclusively heavily into African-American culture, African culture, or Black Carribean culture, such as rap/hip-hop culture or reggae/reggaeton culture, etc. Yet I have never, ever, even seen or heard once in my life a White Girl or White Guy, or even for that matter, a Black Guy or Black Girl, saying to one another or writing an article like you did stating that Black Men and Black Women shouldn’t date a White Woman or White Man because they like a particular (African-American, Nigerian, Jamaican, etc) Black culture or even Black people too much.
For that matter, here is another example: A lot of White Men only like Asian Women. Some even specifically prefer certain types of Asian Women, such as from certain Asian cultures–Chinese, Japanese, Korean, Filipino, Thai, etc. Yet, I again have never, ever heard a White Guys telling Asian Women that they shouldn’t date a White Guy because he is too heavily into East Asian culture or Southeast Asian culture, or even just one particular Asian nationality.
Or, how about this? Another example: we all know that some Asian Women are heavily into White Men or are only into White Men at all, which is their choice, and it is right to let them make their choice without interfering or trying to stop them. In fact, I have found in life that wherever there are a large group of White Males, whether in a formal setting such as the workplace–as in a company or an organization or to an informal setting–such as a bar or club, there are always a few East Asian Women hanging around them, probably looking for White Men to start relationships with them. Yet, I have rarely ever heard in my life Asian Women telling White Men not to date Asian Women who are are too heavily into White Men, or only like White Men because they are White Men.
Or, even how about this? There are many White Americans who love the country of France and who have learned to speak French, even though they were not born in that country and are not even of French descent. They even go to France often and start relationships with Frenchmen and Frenchwomen regardless of the Frenchmen or Frenchwomen’s race. These people are called Francophiles, as I’m sure you might know, Yet, I have never heard a Frenchmen or a Frenchwomen saying that Frenchmen and Frenchwomen shouldn’t start relationships with these Francophiles because they like France too much or because they are into France too much, or even that it is weird that they like their culture so much. No, on the contrary, I know that many French people react exactly like East Asian people of different nationalities when they out that certain women and men who were not born in their country like their culture very much. I know they find it pleasant, charming, interesting, and it endears those people to themselves, and they return the good feeling. And the example that I just mentioned France is a single country, just like the East Asian countries that you mentioned that certain White Women and other women of other races like. So, it is an apples to apples and oranges to oranges comparison without being incorrect.
I have also found out that the same is true for Spain, as some White Men and some White Women in America like Spain in particular, yet I have never heard an American White person tell a Spanish Man or Woman that Spanish Men and Women shouldn’t start relationships with American Men and Women who have a particular liking for their country and only their country.
The same can be said for Brazil, for many White American Women and many White American Men like Brazil, and yet I have never heard an American White Man or Woman say that a Brazilian Man or Woman shouldn’t start a relationship with American White Men and Women who like their country and only their country.
So, in response to your article, I don’t think you should criticize these women for their preferences and tendencies, or advise East Asian Men not to date them. They should have their choice, and we should not criticize, condemn, or interfere, but let them do what they want. But if they like a particular Asian country so much, and if they want to do so, then they should just move there. Every single year there are more and more White, Black, Latina, and Arab, Women and Men who move to East Asian countries to live there full time because they love their East Asian mates so much and because they like the culture and the country. That is why, as time passes, Japan, South Korea, and China, are slowly becoming multicutural countries, and China is slowly starting to have the teething problems of a newly multicultural society. YouTube is full of video of East Asian game shows from East Asian television showing these women and telling the audience more about them.
So, in my opinion, these women should be left alone. Everyone else does it for other particular cultures also, so East Asians should have the same privilege, and East Asian Men should be free to date these women, even if they only like men of that particular culture. These are good concrete examples of the same situation and the same case involving different races and ethnicities in the same situation as East Asians and other people do not interfere or try to stop men and women from the particular culture that is liked by these people from dating and starting relationships with men and women who only like that particular culture. And so I think that East Asian Men should have the same freedom if they want to. And I think that for them, it should be no different
And so, I don’t think that you should speak out against women who only like a particular Asian culture or urge East Asian Men not to date them because I think that you are creating a double-standard. As evidenced by the fact that I have never heard any protests from people who liked any of those non-Asian cultures above that the men and women of those cultures shouldn’t date men or women of other races who liked their culture or only liked them.
I think that they should be left alone to do what they want. It is those women’s choice after all to decide what she wants to be into and what she likes in life. Nobody ever writes artciles saying that White, Black, and Latin Men should never date and start relationships with women who are only into their race or their particular ethnicity and like their culture. Perhaps your point is a valid one, but I think the greater good in this case is letting people have their freedom of choice and do and be what they want without condemnation or telling them what to do. And so I this is beyond other people’s being able to criticize them because in the end people have their freedom and it is people’s own choice what they like and what they want to be into–both women and men, and they shouldn’t be stopped from doing what they want to do or made fun of, That is the greater good even more so than whether it is right to be too heavily into one culture or not, or even whether men from a particular culture should date women who are like that. Even if some of these women like only East Asian Men, or only certain East Asian cultures.
Certain White Women and White Men only like Indian Men and Women, yet I have never ever read a White Woman writing an article saying that Indian Men should never date a White Woman who is only into Indian Men or Indian culture. It is people’s own choice in life what they like and who they want to date, and they should be free to be into whatever they want, good or bad, without contempt or other people critcizing them. We must still respect them and their choice and who they want to be and what they do and not interfere or force our own way through, whether we think that what they are doing what is right, agree with them, or would do what they do or not.
I couldn’t agree more!!!
I am a white russian girl from London and i like East Asian men.) I am very interested in East Asian culture and i find this article “Beware the white girl with a yellow fever fetish” pretty offensive. )
you were sayin the same shit again and again lol could have said all that in shortened words =P just saying.
Let’s not forget just men in general who want the Megan Fox type woman..based off looks completely and ANY woman will do if they are ‘hot’, regardless of race. Same with women who just want a hot rugged guy. I’ve heard of white girls only wanting white men too and what not. Basically the author of the article is making any non-Asian woman who has any kind of love or interest to the culture of any East Asian country suspect to being this disturbing portrait of a stalkerish otaku type–when that’s hardly the case and everyone is allowed preferences in looks because EVERYONE has preferences in looks–these can be ethnicity looks or just general body part shapes, sizes, etc. Being interested in a culture isn’t criminal. Of course by all means an East Asian man can go for a non-Asian woman who is completely ignorant of his culture, doesn’t give a shit to learn and expects them to be just like whatever culture they are from… that sounds much more appealing than one who has common interests in the culture.
“What White Girls Should You Avoid At All Cost?”
This is a bad idea and self-destructive towards East Asians and also hurts in particular those types of White Women that you mentioned in your article that are heavily into East Asian culture. Telling your Asian Male readers that you should avoid these White Women at all costs is wrong and a bad idea. If all East Asian Males followed your advice, these White Women who love East Asian culture and East Asians in particular would have no boyfriend, maybe for the rest of their lives.
If all East Asian Males followed your advice, it would deprive these White Women of the most important reason why a lot of these White Women are into East Asian culture or a particular Asian nationality in the first place, wanting to get an East Asian Male boyfriend, and they would never be happy.
If all Asian Males followed your advice, then that would hurt these White Women and deprive them of the mate that they desired, and if every Asian Male followed your advice, then these women could conceivably be into East Asian culture for years, and yet never manage to even once have an East Asian male boyfriend. That hurts these White Women. Eventually, what could happen is that they would become sour and embittered and turn against East Asians and East Asian cultures because they realized that, although originally they liked East Asians and East Asian culture, yet, after a while their affections and admiration was not returned because, following your advice, East Asian Males looked down upon these White Females or considered them weird or contemptible, and shunned and avoided them. Then these women could never get the boyfriend that they wanted, and eventually, they would lose interest and abandon them and might even begin to hate them once they realized.that they were rejected and their affections were not returned.
I think that would have negative repercussions on people of other races liking East Asian cultures and on people being interested in them and liking them again in the future. Because if people realized that they liked East Asian culture and yet East Asians did not return that love but instead viewed the people who did such things as weird freaks and did not appreciate them and only spurned them and cast them down in contempt and viewed them as odd and refused to associate with them, then, then they would turn on East Asians, not support them ever again, and never like East Asians ever again. That would be bad for East Asians as well as increase racial tensions between races and cultures instead of promoting loving co-existence and racial love and respect and peace and harmony.
Forgive me for saying so, but I think following your advice is a bad idea, and self-destructive and hurtful to White Women and women of other races who like East Asian culture, and East Asian Men and East Asian countries. White Women should be allowed to like East Asian culture as much as they want exclusively and Asian Men should feel free to date them if they want to.
i agree with what you are tryin to say by interpretting your ultimate msg. but it all depends, if she likes asian guys because of the materialistic/superficial shit from asian pop culture then thats wrong. however, on the other hand if she likes him for him, friends/family, and genuinely into the traditions, cultures, history then thats right!
one is obssession while the other is genuine and real.
1) I love Asians
2) I love Southeast Asians in particular
3) I know korean groups such as Epik High and DJ Wreckx; they’re not handsome, but their music is brilliant (Ok, i have guilty pleasures like BigBang and SuperJunior)
4) I barely watch anime, but know enough to get impatient with most male characters
5) I’ve never been to a ComiCon
…I tend to love an Asian guy’s eyes because of the look within them, not of them (because they all look “similar”[same is a damn myth] it’s fun and personal to find the individual characteristics). I want to learn Korean because of business ideas in my future. I want to learn a martial art so i can effectively defend myself. The darker the skin the better. Ya don’t have to be tall or buff; but lean/wiry/skinny (typical asian body) is better.
I would only feel comfortable committing myself to One asian country if i knew real people from it and lived with them and understood their culture – which is how i feel about Cambodians. That would be my first choice; but I do not limit myself.
To each his own. I don’t think that there is anything wrong with letting women or anyone else like only Southeast Asians, though, in the same way, there is also nothing wrong with letting women or anyone else love only East Asians in particular either. I think the authors were wrong in making fun of people who do that and who are like that. If the authors were right, then you would have to make fun of a lot more people and try to stop a lot more people from likeing only one particular culture than just the women who just like East Asians because a lot of people, though not all, have different preferences in life. Regardless of whether it is right or wrong. people have the right to exercise their own free will and to make their own choice without criticism or manipulation or influence by others to do things their way. Just like you would like to have the same choice to do what you want, other people shpould be allowed to do what they want also. I believe in freedom, live and let live, and treating others the way you want to be treated, without being a hypocrite or practicing a double-standard. Different strokes for different folks.
Asians don’t look the same anyway. Anyone that thinks that Asians look the same is either not smart enough, not wise enough, not deep enough, or not in truth enough, to be in reality. Or maybe, just plain deliberately lying in order to oppress people. As proof of this, you can see this from the case of identical twins. Many of them look similar are even less “different” looking from one another than Asians are from one another. They look more alike in comparison to one another than Asians do to one another. And yet, even with them, there are oftentimes small differences between them physically that enable people to tell them apart anyway. That is, if you are sensitive enough to notice.
And even then, there are ways that you can STILL tell them apart; all you have to do is get to know their personalities and things like what kinds of clothes they tend to prefer and things like that anyway. So, although they may seem to resemble one another superficially on the surface, it is the things you can’t see, the things that are not physical, and that are underneath the surface, that are more important, that differentiate them, and that enable people to tell them apart.
Saying that people look the same is just false lies and exaggerations to dehumanize certain groups of people and to push them down or to hold them down and prevent them from rising. I’ve even seen on TV and read online sometimes rarely–though it does exist and I’ve seen it, older White people who were born before the Civil Rights Act was passed in America and integration happened, saying that in the old days, they used to think that about Black people looked all the same to them also. So, other people have said this about other racial groups when they were tried to oppress them in past history besides Asians also. So, this is not the first time that other people have said that about one another. And it wasn’t true about Black people or any other race then, and it isn’t true about Asians now. Saying that Asians look the same is a lie, though we do have to be forgiving of other people’s faults and not complain about it and be tolerant and still be nice and peaceful.
Excuse me…my question is what if the girl is interested in the language because it sounds appealing to the ear and she just happens to be a different race? what if this girl has dated boys of other races and has found that Asian boyfriends are much nicer and more caring in comparison to other races? what if you happen to meet a girl who speaks the language because she wants to visit the country some day due to what she’s heard from people who grew up there and she wants to learn the language so she can communicate with the people there? what if you happen to be someone who doesnt know much about your heritage and she is just more interested in it than you are? Really, you cant just say something without looking at all odds.
“Then again, she could know Chinese not because she’s obsessed but because she dated a Chinese guy who taught her the language. She could listen to Japanese rock because she lived in Japan for a few years. She could love Korean movies because Asian Vengeance films have become their own genre on Netflix and she just picked them up one day.”
I do believe I tried to touch bases on that 😀
Was just browsing the Internet, stumbled across this website, and saw this comment and wanted to stop by and possible give an answer.
That is fine, as long as you have some commanalities. The best and longest-lasting relatationships are based on commonalities.
Any and all odds can be overcome. It’s been done in the past, and it will be done again…where there is a will, there is a way. Love always finds a way.
again… why are u using my name to post stuff………-___- very strange
perhaps, he has the same name as you or else yeah, thats strange…
that is so true, i’m just not into white girls that crazy for asian guys. but how do u approach a girl that never dated asian???
That’s pretty much 90% of the non-Asian women I’ve ever approached and romantically connected with. You basically have to present a very strong, masculine first impression. Especially if you don’t physically fit her sexual archetype (tall, muscular, etc).
Have you downloaded the free 60 minute advanced audio guide?
yes, i have, im pretty fit(one of my friend was pretty turned on when she saw me half naked, she came over to my place few times but i didnt go for it. i regretted so much). im pretty outgoing and never feel shy when talking to white girls. but i suck at picking up those ‘signals’
Don’t bother to read signals. If you’re attracted and interested in her, go for it, regardless of whether or not you’re picking up signals. If you get rejected, you get rejected. But a coward dies a thousand deaths.
But honestly, the confidence of your approach can make her attracted to you when she might not have been previously. Quite honestly, most girls don’t find me physically attracted (not being tall, muscular, nor handsome), but I get them attracted to me after the fact by force of personality and charisma.
If I waited around for signals for women, I’d be going home to Miss Rose Mary Palm each night.
I think a lot of guys trying to “read signals” simply use that as an excuse NOT to talk to a girl or make a move. First of all, there are so many possible signals that it’s difficult to read unless you’re heavily experienced. Secondly, some girls are naturally flirty and give off lots of signals while tons of girls just don’t give out any signals at all (Asian girls for example).
But rather, if you want risk-free move, then you have to do Sexual Compliance Tests in order to ascertain how attracted she is to you and when is the right time to go in.
If they are like me, and too shy to approach a cute Asian guy themselves, then just use JT’s advice and read the signs, you know? Approach her, make her feel like she’s the one person out of the whole room that you chose to talk to, and for a good reason. Just approach the AMWW dating as you would any other kind, you know? Race shouldn’t be such a big issue that it dictates how you approach the ENTIRE relationship!
That’s the advice I’d like to think Asian guys are taking, anyhow.
So this thread is about equal opportunity with Asian ethnic groups??? This only makes me think that all the Vietnamese guys I know secretly hate me because Im Korean (which is probably true).
Geez, stop playahatin
if i’m better looking than you, why does it matter that i’m vietnamese?
ahaha say word! where im from, theres some viets that start shit all the time with us krns. wonder why? [sarcasm] ahaha
I am a Caucasian university student, and I love Asian guys. I can’t say I know guys of ALL Asian ethnicities personally, but I have seen some very lovely Japanese, Korean, Chinese, Thai, and Malay guys. I once dated a guy who was Chinese/Portuguese, and I can say he was much sweeter than perhaps any of my white ex-boyfriends. Just a personal preference; it’s not that I wouldn’t EVER date another white guy, I’ve just found that I’m more attracted to Asian guys. I love Japanese and Thai culture as well; that’s also a personal preference. I barely speak any Japanese or Thai. Only English and Spanish. 🙂
When I first started reading this article, and I read that girls with “Yellow Fever” probably started liking Asian guys because they started listening to Asian pop or watching anime, I was like ok, anime is what sparked my interest in japanese culture, where is this article going. lol.
But I agree with just about everything you said. I love anime, manga, and I listen to quite a bit of japanese pop. And well, none of my caucasian friends are into that stuff, so I never have anyone to have discussions on favorite anime series or favorite Jpop bands with. And it really sucks. So it’s nice to be able to find people with these same interests as you, and for me, it’s usually someone japanese.
Yess, I also think that liking a guy JUST because of his race is pretty shallow. It’s a lot like NOT liking a guy because of his race. To me, a guy can be of any race, but if he’s a jerk, I’m not gonna be into him. As long as a guy is kind, considerate, funny and sweet, he can be any race 🙂
But how would it be a bad thing for a caucasian girl to speak to bit of another language? I’ve been learning how to speak some japanese, because I like how the language sounds. And I’m planning on moving there in the future (hopefully) and becoming an english teacher, so I need to know how to communicate with others when I get there. I don’t want to travel to the opposite side of the earth and not be able to ask directions or make friends.
So I’m a white girl who loves anime, manga, Jpop, and is learning to speak Japanese. Does that mean I’ve got the “Yellow Fever” ?
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YES ! For the lack of a better word !
OMG I CANNOT AGREE WITH U MORE HEATHER!. where to begin… first i would like to say being a KOREAN American guy is VERY frustrating. Because of the false facade that is laid upon Korean guys by the Korean culture and media, most asian countries (philipines, Vietnam, Thailand, Japan, China) are totally INSANE about korean guys. Ladies from those countries are totally obsessed about the “Ideal Korean guy” they see in music videos and dramas.
From my experience… its very frustrating because i have all these asian girls that flock to me just because im korean. I know for a fact that when i get into a relationship with them, they will be looking for a guy they saw in the drama stairway to heaven or the guy they saw in the music video I need a Girl. But the thing is… I want my girl to love me for who i am. My character. A relationship formed by that kind of korean fetish seems so fake to me.
Another thing i want to point out… at this point time and age, the man being successful is a HUGE factor for girls in the asian countries. So I also know that if a girl knows that I am successful and have money… she’ll be my girl because of money. Hence, when i meet a girl I hide the fact that my family is wealthy and im pursuing my career in Dentistry. Because i know not all but most girls will think ” OH! he’s going to be a dentist. He’ll have money” Hiding your successful career is ESPECIALLY critical for Korean and Japanese Women. OMG THEYRE SOOOOO MATERIALISTIC
I guess this turned out to be a personal rant than anything else LOL
Be my guest…rant on 🙂
word, gotta! my korean bro lol i understand exactly where you coming from. i was born in seoul, s. korea, but only lived there until i was 4 then moved to Canada and only visited there once. I am now a monday away from turning 21 and up to now I can say I have experienced what you have as well, kinda excluding the money and full time job though lol since im still a stud.
lol my keyboard sucks. spellin corrections from ^above: gotcha and month**
Oh and question for you experts. from what i seen, most white girls that are into Asian men are also into Anime and Gaming. In your honest opinion, do you think it will be hard to find a white girl that is not into that stuff but likes asian guys? Girls like that turn me off. I mean i play games like black ops.. but thats it.
I feel that, in general, you’re going to find a lot more women that like gaming as time progresses because more and more girls are growing up with it…I grew up with the NES, N64, PS2, and now PS3. With the Wii as popular as it is, I think the younger generation of girls won’t be as phased with gaming, albeit casual gaming at best. That is most definitely not limited to girls that like Asian guys.
Anime…I don’t know what to say about that one.
I do think that, in the future, the things we consider to be a niche will not be so – gaming and liking Asian guys included.
u have a good point. alot of games these days are totally targeted toward the ladies. by the way, ur smile is so bright and beautiful. i can see that your a bit shy because of your braces… but dont be!! its going to come off soon or later anyway. dont let braces stop people from seeing your beautiful smile. just watching your smile makes me bubbly. and im sure it does that to other too
Thank you, you’re too kind 🙂
FINALLY YOU GET IT ! bec. there will MOSTLY be Heterosexual women who are Turned off by Oestrogen Filled Feminine Featured she boys with small dongs ! Thank god your kind will be gone !
I actually do like Asian men, and I read some anime but it doesn’t interest me. Nor am I into gaming
word! i know exactly what you mean, my azn friend lol you can say that again.
I hate anime and gaming.. I prefer Asian men. I get annoyed by the otaku types… boys and girls alike.
Hm…I can see myself becoming that shallow girl. I better keep my mind in reality. haha
You mean Bi or Near bi sexual girl ! Hai Alice, or this another one ?
People had better watch out not to be discouraged from starting a relationship with other races of women from some of the comments on some of these boards. Don’t let them discourage you from doing what you want. It is pretty obvious that some of these comments are cleverly disguised attempts to break up Asian Men and other races of women. There are a lot of men of other races who try to break up Asian Men and other races of women who disguise themselves under false screennames. I think that there are even some racist White Guys in my neighborhood who found out that I visit this board and post here to try to break up Asian Men and White Women because my neighborhood is very racist. Just take what you read with a grain of salt, and WORK OFFLINE, and avoid confrontation with the people who try to stop you and be discreet. With what you read, WITH BOTH MEN AND WOMEN, just TAKE THE GOOD AND LEAVE OUT THE BAD. You don’t have to listen to people telling you to do stuff that isn’t wrong. And please know that not everyone on the Internet is who they seem.
Wise words indeed, although I’m sure your neighbors can’t inflict the damage upon those relationships that really were meant to be 🙂
I think there’s nothing wrong with an Asian Guy chasing after and getting a taller woman anyway. I find that on the Internet only LEARNING FROM THE GOOD STUFF PEOPLE SAY OR DO AND DISCARDING ANY OF THE BAD STUFF THAT YOU READ OR SEE IS THE BEST WAY. BESIDES, EVERYONE KNOWS THAT TALKING ON THE INTERNET WILL NOT GET YOU A WOMAN, ONLY GOING OUT THERE ON THE STREET AND TAKING THE ACTIONS TO GET HER WILL WORK. Everyone’s else’s words and actions on the Internet should be taken with a grain of salt and considered carefully as to whether it benefits the Good or not, and then if it is you should follow them, and if it does not then you should not follow them. These words and actions include my own. People should not have to obey any ranking.
why are u using my name to post stuff???? ur very strange
I just realized that I am that girl. dfjsdjkfhsdakjfsdah.
But I’m gonna change that!
Good to see heather is bringing people back to reality and changing people. Because there are PLENTY of peepo out there that will take advantage of girls with yellow fever.
Well I’m marrying a man from Vietnam and he’s crazy hot, fun to be around, and basically everything I could ever want in a man. I love Asian men but never thought of picking them out like that. Also, aside from my wonderful Minh (fiance) I don’t have one single Asian obsession. He has actually introduced me to so much Asian culture that I didn’t know much about. I agree 100% that these types are just looking to fulfill a fantasy and aren’t dating these guys for who they actually are. If you are that way ladies, there is so much to Asian men that you will never know and that’s a shame. Love them for them and drop your preference specifications.
finally, someone that understands these BSes! lol thank you.
You say you love asian men ! hmm, interesting, have you dated the other five races of men as well to make that choice ? just thinking aloud ! Or your just Bi or Near Bi !
Funny thing, my first Asian boyfriend was adopted and raised by a white family. I was afraid to date a real Asian from Asia because I had talked to a few who said they would never introduce a white girl to their families.
Ha.. my boyfriend is Chinese.. he’s teaching me Mandarin and he introduced me to so much stuff I’ve never seen! I was way into anime back in like.. middle/high school but since grew out of it… other than that my George shows me the other side of the planet. XD
WHAT OTHER SIDE OF THE PLANET ? You’re marrying a chinese, right ? so , you are still on the same side ! c’mon !!!!!!!!
in my opinion white girls are generally racist, i mean look at that chick from UCLA and here in Australia u barely see any caucasian girls dating outside of their own race, same with most european girls as well, most of them never go for minorities
Ayahhh please do NOT put the entire population of caucasian females under the lead of Alexandra Wallace.
Fuck that bitch. Insults an entire race of people, multiple ethnicities, and enforces another stereotype on her end.
And it depends if races are exposed to each other. If say the white girl lives in the suburbs but the asian lives in the city, they won’t have general interests in common so they won’t bother. Lucky for me, I live in the thicket of the asians in my state and have lived with asians so that’s why i am particular for Asians (preferably dark skinned yo ;D )
Um what, solo dholo?
I am a caucasian female and I do not consider myself to be racist at all! (This being said without including many scientific studies that say we unconsciously discriminate against anyone different than us anyways) But I think I can say that I’m not consciously racist. And most caucasian girls I know (and hell, I’ll admit, I know a lot) would not discriminate racially about who they’d date. Because as they know very well, THAT WOULD BE RACIST and in case anyone HASN’T noticed, racism is not generally seen as OKAY. I’ve only met a few who would discriminate dating racially, and of course I didn’t agree with them at all because obviously they were the kind of person who had their head up their ass.
It’s attitudes like yours that prevent caucasian girls from getting anywhere with guys who happen to be minorities. If there’s discrimination, it’s coming from both ends. I see your attitude among many males who happen to be a minority ethnicity; they assume that we think we’re better than them, so they talk themselves out of dating us, deciding that ‘She’s white, of course she’s racist, she wouldn’t date a minority, she thinks she’s too good for me! Bitch!’, and at least in my case, I see that attitude and immediately get turned off because no matter what a person’s race is, I always dislike people with a bad attitude! Sometimes, even worse, a guy will hit on me in the street or something (which I never find attractive) and when I ignore it and keep walking, they try to tell that I’m RACIST for not responding. As if I wouldn’t dislike a WHITE GUY who did the same thing.
And as for girls who think all Asian (namely Korean) guys have pale skin, nice hair and toned bodies: well obviously they seem to prefer that in a guy, and I agree that it’s wrong for them to just assume that about an entire gender of a certain race, but I also don’t see anything wrong with liking that particular type of appearance in a potential partner! Sure, I like guys with clear pale skin, nice hair, and a toned body, but that doesn’t mean that I don’t like a guy with tanned or dark skin, cool hair, and a relatively healthy body. Or even a guy with not so good skin, not-so-great hair, but possesses other attractive traits.
A year or two ago, my high school was housed with a bilingual school that taught newly immigrated kids English and got them ready to move into the American education system. Among the students were a couple Asian guys that I was insanely attracted to. Neither had pale skin. In fact, one had a pretty painful looking case of acne and darker skin. One didn’t have an insanely toned body or anything like that. Neither had hair that I’d write home about. I had no idea ‘which Asian’ they were (although I found out later that one was Chinese & the other was straight up MONGOLIAN… i have to say, how cool is that?) and I also just couldn’t care less. But nonetheless, I found both very attractive and would’ve dated either in a heartbeat if language wasn’t such a barrier.
At the same time, I’ve liked a guy who’s half-Mexican for the longest time. Honestly, the only reason I even know his ‘race’ is because he told me.
My point is, you could make the same point this article makes using just about any two ethnicities in the entire universe. You could write an article ‘Beware the Asian Girl with Black Fever’ and warn Black guys that they should beware of Asian girls who speak all their slang and listen to 50 Cent (note that I’m stereotyping ‘black’ music on purpose because that’s exactly what this article is also doing with ‘Korean’ music or ‘Chinese’ music, assuming that all that love Korean or Chinese music have such-and-such artists in common.)
In the end, I wonder: can’t we all just get along? Give each other the benefit of the doubt? Maybe if we did this, we’d be able to stop feeding the flames of discrimination.
dark skinned asian ? where did you come up with that one ? !
Well its always interesting to look at things the other way around as well…not alot of Asians will date outside of their culture and some are not allowed to date any other culture due to their parents preferences and religion. In saying that I’m a white girl dating a Malasian but the Mother in law still lives in Malaysia – so I’m safe lol.
I am married to a Filipino man. He is right around 5’4 and I am close to 5’8. I am much bigger than he is in the weight department but that doesn’t bother either of us; in fact he loves it. I have always had a preference for Asian men it never mattered what country they came from.
Agree!!!
My bf is Korean and I know his ex GF – she is australian and completely obsessed with the TOP/RAIN type of guy and in fact ended her relationship with my bf because he didnt look enough like TOP…..WHAT a nut of a girl……
I just find Asian men more appealing in both looks and nature…..their morals and family values are the same as mine and so its what i like. Most white guys around me like drinking and getting tattoos…..where as an Asian Guy? not likely….
The place and family a person grows up with determins their personality and it just happens i dont like the general personality of white guys….
I have had allot of thought on this subject.. I am a White girl and I have always been attracted to Asian guys.. But I didn’t dwell on it until I started reading manga.. And then started listening to K-pop… Anyway my reason? I like their body’s, most of them are shy like me, the ones I have met are not afraid to open up an be sensitive, they truly act like they care for their girl, allot of them have a feminin look I’m attracted to in even White men. I mean I like the look of Koreans.. With some time I have been able to tell the difference between each Asian race and Koreans have a look Im attracted to more… Does this mean I only like Koreans because of Kpop? NO! I have watched plenty of Tiwanese, Japanese and Chinese movies and I must say Bruce Lee is a Babe!
I also know what a “Real” Asian guy looks like… And to me they look like Asian Stars haha..I mean there are some hotties and not so hot… But I am aware that no one is perfect.
When I read this post I questioned my self “Am I one of these girls?” I mean some of the things you mentioned I do. But telling Asian guys to stay clear of these kind if girls? I mean any White girl who likes Asians or East Asians probably has allot of these characteristics… How is a White girl supposed to relate to an Asian guys culture if they don’t know anything about Asia! Wouldnt an Asian guy want a girl who is immersed in the culture rather than oblivious?
i understand yo and others views similar to yours. whatever makes you happy, fine… i think what heather was tryin to say, is that there are non-asian girls that are interested in asians for good/right reasons like the actual traditional culture, history. HOWEVER, there are girls that ONLY like asians due to the materialistic shit like pop culture= anime, music, movies, etc. [which i think thats what heather was tryin to portray in this article]. thats not real like/love nor healthy. it’s an obssession! if one was to TRULY like and desire another from a different race/culture, he or she would embrace and learn about the special someone, family/friends, their culture, traditions, history. just liking someone because you are into such shit from a racial pop culture and that person happens to be from that race is disgusting!
hopefully, ppl that read this got it lol. it can be hard to interpret.
so wait, you’re saying if you like their pop culture, they have “yellow fever”and are wrong to be attracted to Asians??
YELLOW FEVER written all over you !
Hey,
Haha nice article, it’s so true ! This is why, I prefer Asian girls ^^
I only date people my race, it’s safer. Last time I had a inter-racial
relationship, it was a disaster ! xD
pretty close minded. You could meet wonderful people of several different races who might be perfect for you.
I think this also applies with Asian men with white fever (not familiar with the lingo sorry). I know quite a few international students expecting to meet the Britney Spears look-a-like of his life because he was into western pop culture. Now if you think about it…
…what if the obsessed-anime-fan-britney-look-a-like met up with the hot-model-japanese-who-resembles-sasuke-from-naruto-and-who-happens-to-be-a-britney-fan met up with each other? Would it be love at first sight? We’ll see sooner or later with more anecdotal evidence.
This is so true! Really nice article. I’ve also met these kind of girls. And thank goodness, it wasn’t contagious.
Good and enlightening article. As an Asian male I thought being the object of a fetish (for a change!) would be pretty cool but after reading this article feels kinda creepy now. Fetish anything is generally not healthy.
I find it funny that you attack those girls for being shallow when you have a fetish for asian men and only a vague concept of their culture.
Fact is if you cant look past someone race, then is your problem
I find it funny you’re lumping all Asian men into one culture and then attacking me for generalizing and vague understandings.
Here’s where I’m coming from:
My mom wanted to go to a Japanese festival for her birthday. She loves seeing different cultures and wanted to learn more about Japan. Her main interests were the taiko and flute demonstrations and then the kimono fashion show.
We got there are were surrounded by otaku. Like, packed to the brim, people dressed up in costumes and screaming in delight at overpriced pocky and mochi, yelling incomprehensible fragmented sentences in Japanese and being overall very…loud.
While anime is Japanese, Japan is not anime. I felt as if they completely disregarded the actual culture in favor of bright cartoons.
This must be coming from a woman who hasn’t really cared to learn the culture of her counterpart. It’s not obsessive to do that or to learn a language. And it’s not wrong to have a country preference if you bother to learn the culture. I’m interested in East Asian studies but haven’t really taken an interest in Southeast Asia because it’s a completely different political history, and Southeast asia has tons more ethnic groups than the slightly more homogenous East Asia. I think this magazine is pretty terrible. I’m going to continue to read it so I can figure out what other stereotypes and false information is spreading about Asian coming from the “educated” white women.
Hasn’t cared to learn the culture of my counterpart? I’ve dated a guy from the Philippines and learned some Tagalog. I dated a guy from Taiwan and picked up a lot more Mandarin, went to Taiwan, learned the superstitions, the nuances, etc (not an expert by any means but…you know, comes with the territory of dating someone from another country). Dated a guy from South Korea and by that point just did not have the willpower to learn Korean (that is HARD. Kudos to those who speak it).
I just fail to see how things like anime and kpop are the only aspects of culture in Asian nations.
You have to admit, you know this type of girl I’m describing in the article.
really? korean is one of the easiest asian languages and when i mean asian, im sayin compared to jap. and chinese as well lol. mhmm, oh well, everybody is good at different things lol
you should try speaking thai. The exact same spelled word can mean 5 different things since our language has 5 different sound pitches!!
I agree, Korean is one of the most logically structured languages I’ve learned 🙂
Yeah. It only takes about two days to learn the alphabet.I have a B.A. in Korean from OSU, and I was practically fluent at the end of my 2nd year of college. I tried Mandarin after that,and excuse my french,but fuck that shit.
Well you’re still being onesided. If these girls find some link into these countries, just because it’s anime, or kpop or something doesn’t mean they’ve got yellow fever. Ever think like how you got your boyfriends, so you learned their things, it’s because you were introduced to the culture and wanted to know more? These girls got introduced to these cultures, and they’re trying to learn more, and you on your self righteous high horse are putting them down for it! Ever think they’re trying to teach themselves the language so they can fucking understand the song, not because they’re obsessed?? But nooooo, it’s ok when you do it, but everyone else is a fucking fetishist? You’re a hypocrite who doesn’t know a fucking thing about what she’s saying, giving everyone else a bad name! So much for you being fucking intelligent. so screw you, don’t act like you know so much.
HAVE YOU DATED ANY MAN WHO WAS OUTSIDE OF ASIA ? You are quite disturbed with Yellow Fever ! No real recourse for it !
I completely agree with you!
And i think if a girl likes anime, korean dramas or bands , etc. and she came to love asian culture because of that , it doesn’t necessarily mean that she is a fangirl.) AND even if she is it doesn’t mean that she can’t make her asian boyfriend happy. We all have different preferences.) And it doesn’t matter if a guy is asian or not, if he suits the girl’s taste then she’ll go for him and vice versa.) We’re all a bit shallow when it comes to choosing our boyfriends and girlfriends. And if a girl started dating an asian guy just because she likes anime or dramas it doesn’t mean that she can’t get to know him as a person and love him for who he is.
I find this article distasteful and inaccurate.)
Yeah, lots of girls I’ve met are only into Asian guys just because of the whole anime crap. Hell, even ASIAN American girls think all korean guys are hot just because of some stupid korean bands. Pretty annoying that nobody think Chinese men are good looking. It’s annoying when I try to look nice, girls are all like “hey, are you korean?”
“Fk no, I’m CHINESE.”
looks like you are experiencin what a lot of krns experience. most ppl used to think im either chinese or jap, when im korean! lol the tables have turned =P
Hey, as look as you take care of yourself, you know, and you’re a good person, hey, you could be from the planet Zog for all I care!!!
I understand that many girls like Asian guys because of the media portrayal of them (and I will admit I used to have a massive crush on Japanese actor Ken’ichi Matsuyama until he got married last year) However, where I’m from, I see plenty of real Asian men, who aren’t celebrities, so I do know what I’m basing my attraction on.
Ah well, what are we gonna do?
Trust me, someday you’re going to find normal girls. I find people of all races that can be attractive in my eyes, Chinese, Japanese, Korean, Thai, Vietnamese, Cambodian, Filipino, etc. I particularly enjoy those of asian races obviously, but because I’ve had good friends of those races and I see good things inside many of them, if they have those good things in their personality. Everyone has something beautiful about them, no matter race. Just got to find the people where the good outweighs the bad and ignore the idiots who don’t deserve your time 🙂
Now you know how I feel, I been called Chinese all my life. I am Korean not Chinese.
I had to learn this the hard way. My first and only gf had yellow fever fetish. Man why didnt i see this article before. It could have saved me from getting hurt.
D: baaaaw! she left you for another guy? >:[ betch!
Huh. I see. Okay, you had a bad experience with a shallow-minded girl who was only willing to date you because of your ethnicity. It’s hard, yes, but I’m not gonna give you a huge amount of sympathy because you psted this a year ago and that girl isn’t worth crying over for more than a week (a month, tops). My advice? Let the next girl you date get to know you as more than that Asian guy across the way. If she still can’t see you beyond her Yellow Fever Fetish tunnel vision, move on. As for myself? Yes, I’m interested in Japanese culture, but I have been since long before puberty. Asian men are my preference, as white girls may be yours, but if your PERSONALITY stinks, I will dump you. I’ll get to know the real you, but only if you get to know me and don’t judge me by any White Fever Fetish you might have.
Does that sound fair?
The thing is, you also have to ask why do asian guys like white girls? The view on the other side is probably media related too (to a large extent)…
And the other sad reality is that… alot of relatiomships are based on very shallow attractions.. thats just the way we work lol. AMWF or not.
Oh the other thing is, alot of K-pop guys have big eyes because of plastic surgery, same applies to the girls (though admitedly I am proud that K-media can promote guys with small eyes too and define a new concept of what is considered ‘handsome’). Though I cant say the average Korean guy is handsome.
IMO the average Japanese and Chinese guy looks better though. Although alot of Japanese appear to have hints of anglo blood from WW occupation (so I believe). There are plenty of good looking natural Chinese guys like Wu Zun, Alan and ones you cant even name on Chinese tv.
i hate it when girls like me just because i am korean due to the kpop and k-drama sub-culture. fuck, it gets annoying. just like me for who i am as a man and as a person ;P
just want you guys to remember that only some of them are like that!! Doesnt mean all!! also, this doesnt apply for white girls ONLY!! But you are right! o-o those girls are creepy! i hate fangirls!! this means you gotta really get to know duh girl your about to go out with b4 you actually do! 😀
just be yourself!! yes, im a white girl (Polish one XD), no i dont have yellow fever! race doesnt really matter ;p
if a girl goes out wit any boy just cuz he asian, then she probably a whore! just sayin
I just read one of heathers posts and she was just saying that it annoys her when Asian guys assume they can date her just because they’re Asian. She said she had more standards than that, and never referenced any amazing trait that they supposably all “have in common”, all she said was that she was simply attracted to them. I’m attracted to Asian guys too for the most part, but I’m not going to generalize and think that any asian man is perfect for me. I just find them attractive.
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I agree that there’s some crazy Yellow fever girls out there. I’ve met some of them or maybe I can be classified as one, I’m not sure… But I do have a specific type that I like, but on the other hand, I don’t find anything wrong with it. Because if anyone gets screwed over it’s me after I find out after and during dating them that “Oh, you look good but… you also like a lot of things I hate” or “You look good but your personality is boring…” I’ve had this happen a couple of times! It goes well the first month and then it starts to slide off. But that’s me causing my own downfall. But if I have to constantly look at a guy and make this face: : … because he’s not really my type, then that’s also not worth it. OK, so that’s shallow and it causes me to weed out a lot of guys who might actually be perfect for me. But that’s my preference. And there’s nothing wrong with that. Girls who exclusively date Asians do the same thing when they weed out other races.
Honestly, I am attracted Asian guys…but mostly Chinese guys recently in the past year. Almost all my guy friends I have, are Asian. It doesn’t matter the race, but every once in a while, when I meet a new Chinese guy and if I think he’s cute, I will possibly, and most definitely fall for him.
I LOVE Chinese culture, I am crazy about it and intrigued by it. I do talk about it a lot, but not too much. Back then, at least over a year ago, I used to be this crazy girl whom had Yellow Fever.
And now, there is this White chick, who is a mutual friend with one of my Chinese friends…. the girl has Yellow fever and mad crazy about Asians, only wanting an Asian boyfriend. The sad thing is, she is open about liking Asian guys and is MORE ACCEPTED than I am.
I just read this and It very informative. I have had some of my male Asian friends make jokes about me having “yellow fever” or even saying that I’m a “reverse twinkie” but when reading this I honestly can say I don’t have yellow fever. I like to think of myself as a “equal opportunist” Lol
In the aspect of the idea of Asians. I mean yes I like Asian men and I’m attracted to them. BUT I’m not attracted to a specific ethnicity I rather like a Asian man based off of who they are and how we get alone. Weather he is Chinese, Vietnamese, Taiwanese, Filipino, Korean or the list goes on. I also DO like anime and kpop and so on. BUT I have come into liking these based off of my interest in Asian culture and learning about it and then learning about all these other things or even through my Asian friends Introducing me to it. As long as I can remember I have had a interest in Asian culture and off of that have some to like and learn more about all of it as a whole. I also am a functioning American. I like my American ways to at the same time I enjoying InuYasha I enjoy reading my DC and Marvel. I love movies like to name a new one “legend of the fist” I also love stuff like”battle la” and I like k-pop and things like 2pm, 2am, beast, and so on but I also like Tim McGraw, Blink 182, The Starting line, Far East Movement and so on.
So the main reason I’m responding to this is because I have been accused of having yellow fever and after reading this I don’t believe I fit into that example. Thank you very much for posting this! I did enjoy reading it! ^_^ I also look forward to future post!
Heather, do you still live in utah? 🙂
I felt quite disgusted while hearing somebody date some other juz b’coz of ethnic….
Everybody hav references for choosing a lifetime partner;
But if they simply date them b’coz of ethnic, regardless other aspects, tat sounds fool….
& I can said tat here in Malaysia (multi-race), due to media, anime & videos etc, many guyz luv Japanese galz….
Some freelance mangaka I knew hav fetish in Japanese galz….
They luv to draw stories like cute Japanese galz fall in luv & marry with their own race etc.
& they luv those cosplayers in Japanese anime costume or Japanese school uniform.
Once I hav a photographer fren, 1 day he photoshoot with a cute teenage gal in her Japanese school uniform, & tat model ‘s petite & hav da very kawaii look which make her looks like a Japanese teen gal.
After da shoot they went to hav a meal in Kuala Lumpur ‘s Chinatown (hawkers ‘re mostly Malaysian Chinese).
Along da street da many hawkers kept greeted her with “Konnichiwa”, da fruit hawker even gave her free fruits.
Once they reached da restaurant, everyone approached her, treat her friendly, & offer her free food & free drink.
But once da photographer told them she ‘s not a Japanese, but a Chinese like them, guess wat??
All of those ppl ‘s reaction turn cold, no more friendly, no more free food & free drink.
See how?? Those ppl treat a cute gal nicely not b’coz she ‘s cute;
But juz b’coz they tot tat she ‘s a Japanese.
Wat a shame….
Btw once an Asian guy told me he found me attractive & hav da good qualities he wish his future partner hav;
But then said: “Da only thing ‘s u ‘re not a blonde White gal, or else I gonna date u.”
Another thing ‘s: While I look @ his FB;
I found out he only greet those White galz during they leave their comments & their b’days, although some of them ‘re not tat hot (some even considered below average);
While he juz ignore those Asians in his page.
So I wish he could find a blonde White gal who ‘s Asian-fetish & gonna date his for da only reason of he ‘s an Asian. 😀
before reading this article, i didn’t know whether or not i had a fetish. but i was leaning towards the fetish side. now after reading it, i am sure i have a fetish… i need to tone it down
not too long ago i met this girl online (who was white) from a dating site. unknown to me was that she had a fascination with asian culture. but upon further discovery through our discussion, she had a fascination with japanese and korean culture. and why? you guessed it, it was from exposure to k-pop and j-pop. it seemed to her that she only wanted to date a guy from either of those countries and that she was dead set on it.
fast forward a week later and we decided to exchange pictures. we both were pleasantly pleased with who we were chatting with the whole time, and it was apparent that we were both attracted by what we saw. in that time, she finally asked what ethnicity i was. because in the past conversation, she never brought it up. she had only ASSUMED that i was either korean or japanese in her own mind. i told her that i was filipino. knowing full well that i would not hear a response back from her because of this, i was prepared for that. with my answer, she was really surprised and didn’t expect that filipino guys could actually be good looking. that in itself made me a little disappointed.
because of what had happened, i ended up NOT returning her emails.even if things did go well. and no, i have no regrets. i know that her tunnel vision ruined what otherwise would have been something good if she had just let go of her views on what an asian guy is, or should be.
i’m glad i ran across this article, because now it answers what i encountered. and well it’s also made me more aware of what to avoid. in the end, i don’t think that race does matter with who we date, and yes we are all entitled to our own preferences and who we want to date. i myself, will avoid any girl with yellow fever from this point on. and now i have a better understanding because of this.
kudos on this article 🙂
Are you in the US or the UK? I’m not that fussy despite my fascination with Japanese culture (I will be honest)! Good personality, good looks, wit, those are my check boxes!
This is one of the stupidest shit that I’ve ever read in my entire life.Pls dont tell people that you’re from Malaysia,I don’t want to be associated with people like you.
Wonderful post. I hate yellow fever from either gender. I’ve been the victim of such ‘affections’ in the past, myself being half-Asian. That’s good enough for Asiaphiles … not even actually Asian and I still pass lol. Makes me feel really sick. Obviously I have no problem with interracial couples, I was born of one, but when people search each other out BASED on colour … makes my skin crawl, especially, as you rightly point out, because they are generally so ignorant and looking for stereotypes.
Lol! I totally ran into one of these girls at a bar one time. One of the 1st things she said to me was “does a mixed girl like me have a chance with an Oriental guy”.
My younger sister (she’s 15) is obsessed with Korean guys. Especially their thin eyes. It drives her wild. She has posters of K-Boy bands all over her room. I think it’s just a phase. I personally never found myself obsessing over a particular race or people. I just know hotness when I see it.
I don’t care what race a man is as long as he is a good person who is respectful to others though I do like Asians and yes I like anime, Asian dramas, J-pop, K-pop, C-pop and all those things I still can function in American society just fine.
Hello,
I’m just gonna set the record straight, since I could be perceived as one of these girls if the article is true. Yes, I have a preference for Asian men. Yes, I love Japanese culture, and was intorduced to it through anime (in fact, I cannot remember a time in my life when I didn’t watch anime, regardless of whether I knew it was anime or not). Yes, I can speak some Japanese and am currently learning it at the advanced level and I can probably speak it better than some U.S born Japanese Americans.
This does not make me a Yellow Fever Fetishist!
I watch anime and read manga, of course, but I don’t watch anime all the time. I watch ‘Friends’ and ‘Red Dwarf’ and ‘Glee’ (often hoping for a peek at the lovely Harry Shum, Jr as well the songs and drama) more often than I do anime, at the moment, and that’s fine with me. I have a favourite Japanese seiyuu (or voice actor), a favourite Japanese actor, and a favourite manga artist, all thanks to a manga/anime series, but that’s not surprising – many people I know can name favourites in this category. I do have specific traits that I look for in a partner, but that applies to all men. I would date a white guy or a black guy if they had the right qualities, personality-wise, but I would prefer an Asian man because that IS my preference. That’s a fact.
However:
I am quite well aware of my own culture, and I love it too. I am learning Japanese not just for the culture, but because I know it’s a good language to learn for business, because you’re more likely to get employed if you know two or more languages, and because I plan to work in Japan. Considering this, you could say that I prefer Japanese men because I know that, if all goes well, then dating Japanese men would be the most convenient/logical thing to do when looking for a partner (although that isn’t why I like them either, I’m not that cold).
Also, when it comes to the personalities of Asian men as stereotyped by the media, I know that they are stereotyped as being too shy and sexist. I do know about the stereotypes, but I refuse to believe that all Asian men are this way. Asian men have personalities that vary as much as they do in White men and Black men. I am aware that the best technique may be to make the first move myself (and I can), but I do know to give the man the chance to take control and make the first move since this is a quality most men value (not to generalise of course). However, as with the sexist attitudes, while I would want to make a home with someone one day, I’m going to do it because I choose to. I won’t take being pushed around either.
As for the exclusion of Chinese, just, why? I know plenty of Chinese guys who are lovely people, and a prize for the girl lucky enough to date one of them. I know that when I’ve married Mr Right, I would want to adopt a Chinese child, but that isn’t because it’s a fad to follow and because of that fetish/obssession or whatever, but because I know there’s a Chinese child who would benefit from the loving home I could provide. I know I’m a maternal person, and I intend to make that my strength and help others with it.
When I find that Mr Right (whether he be Asian, White or Black (but especially Asian)), I intend to know all of what he’s about, regardless of what his skin colour is or whether or not he has the eyes that Asians seem to be prized for.
So please, before you blow off girls like me as Yellow Fever Fetisists just because she goes to Anime conventions and has an Asian preference, just listen to what she has to say, okay?
Ruinxxx
Girl, THANK YOU for sayin this! Its so true. Just because you have a PREFERENCE does not make it ipso facto a FETISH. I like Asian guys because I think they are hot. Am I going to date a guy just because he is Asian? No! He had better have the personality too, and the intelligence, and the love for animals…all that is just as important. But let’s face it: you like what you like. Its about attraction and genuine interest in other cultures, and there is NOTHING wrong with that!
Thanks LaurenEliz! And preferring Asian guys is just that: A preference, and nothing wrong with that! Any Asian guys here wary of the Yellow Fever Girls after reading this article, come right over here, we’re not infected!
I’m single and very very attractive to Caucasian women. If you don’t mind, please shoot me an email and see how it goes. PS: I live in Mays Landing, NJ 08330
God, I love you. It’s so difficult to find intelligent people nowadays, some of the people in this thread just need to be shot. You’re wonderful, plus I hope you get everything you’re looking for. I swear, the writer of this blog pisses me off with her generalizations which give everyone a bad name. I know I’d be going to Japan too, not for the guys, but for the culture, and I don’t think it’s fair if I go there, I shouldn’t get a date I’d be going for an asian guy e.e I know I’m gong to learn the language, not because I’m obsessed, but it would be kinda helpful knowing the language of the country you’re going to live it… This woman who wrote this doesn’t know a thing she’s talking about. Sure there’s psychos somewhere, but she shouldn’t be ruining everyone’s chance to find a good guy by trying to scare the guys away from white girls.
By your definition, I suppose that I would have yellow fever. But, at the same time, I doubt that I do. Yes, I lean towards Asians and White men, but more so because I like their features. It’s not like I’d date any asian on the face of this planet because they were asian. I do like k-pop, and I will admit that it had influenced by wanting to learn about the language and the culture, but I also want to learn about it because I respect it. I like the idea of learning about any culture really, and I’m gifted with the ability to pick up languages quickly. I want to learn about the traditional culture, the holidays, the history, etc., because I’m interested in it, not because I’m obsessed with it.
Now, that being said, I am a white girl going to a Korean church, and I see them all as people, rather than asians. I love each and every one of them because of who they are, not what their ethnicity is. And, while i will admit that Korean men do act differently from white men(ie. more caring and polite,) and that I do prefer it, I’d like a white guy who acted like that as well.
The mom’s at the church, and even those in my youth group, DIE when I try to speak and learn Korean. My friends parents and brother squealed in glee, and one of the ladies at the church called me beautiful and respectful. The Korean’s that I know personally find it very flattering and admirable when someone tries to learn about their culture.That being said, I love the people, not the ethnicity.
Although the culture, history, food, and manners come with it,
I would love them all just that same if they were white.
oh poo, that was supposed to be an avatar, not an attached file. -.-
At least you can do the attached image thing, I just can’t~~ So need to work it out.
I’m Asian and I love what you wrote. Have you had a Asian boyfriend or something like that in the past ?
I’m an international student from South Korea, I’ve dated a white girl once for past 5 years since I’ve been in the states. She didn’t have yellow fever. We just could start dating naturally because we took the same class and we met there. We took a few months to get to know each other, get closed more, and after a few months later, I was convinced to ask her out because I found out she liked me too. It was just a one time, but I can never forget those precious days and time I spent with her, and she’s the most purest, genuine, and plain and simple girl I’ve ever met more than even Korean girls (the reason I never want to date Korean girls anymore is because most of them are terrible lavish gold diggers now), and it has changed my perception that I want to marry such a white girl. I know not every white girl is like her for sure, but I believe there should be such nice girls somewhere. Once again, I really love white girls now and I can do not only date but marry them for sure. White girls reading this, just approach me cause you never know what’s gonna happen! (anybody email me if you really want me!)
Geez, what a hater!! How about all those white men having a Asian fetish?? Isn’t that just as bad??People like people, who care who is Caucasian and who is Asian? That’s really dumb!!
Zealots of any stripe are dangerous and ought to be dealt with cautiously, and they don’t always show you their poster/figurine collections on the first date, so kudos to the author for providing Asian gentlemen with a list of warning signs.
Still, not every one of us white chicks who finds Asian men attractive has an attic full of cosplay costumes, so please let’s not assume that reading manga = Asian man fetish. It might be she likes the story, or the art. It might be that she saw the Strawberry Milk clip on a gaming forum when someone was complaining about how shyte US VA work is, and has been addicted to Gin Tama ever since…You never know!
That aside, as far as liking a guy just for his ethnicity, that’s insane. I have more or less the same “type” regardless of ethnicity – slim build, taller than me (I’m 5’3″), dark hair, clear skin, dresses well, polite – but oddly enough I find more Asian guys who fit that description than white guys. Maybe it’s because the man-child syndrome that is so rampant here in the US doesn’t seem to have infected the Asian community. Asian guys dress like adults, they make an effort not to look like they just rolled off the frat house sofa when they go somewhere, and they typically have far better manners than their white counterparts. I don’t have a Daddy Complex, either, so I’m not attracted to the stereotypical Western Macho Man – having a father that is a retired Army officer, pilot and decorated war veteran is all the Western “you feelin’ lucky, punk” Macho I can handle, thanks.
Of course NOW I’m gong to be a bit paranoid, thinking that if I flirt with an Asian guy he’s going to think I’m only flirting with him because he’s Asian. -_-‘
Pretty shallow post by someone who probably used to be just what this article describes, but is now trying to set herself apart from the hordes of newschool fangirls.
Hypocritical tripe is what this is. Basically, you have told all Asian men who come to this garbage site to avoid girls EXACTLY like yourself. Smart.
I laughed ridiculously hard as I was reading through this. I can see why an asian dude I was dating abruptly stopped talking to me. I’m considered an attractive person and he was a hideous Asian fella….but I was SO deeply and unnaturally infatuated with him that he probably caught on to everything you mentioned. I wonder if he stumbled upon this article to reach the epiphany. Yeah, but I’m ashamed to admit I’m a fangirl. I’d wait on an Asian dude on my hands and knees.
At least, you are not defensive about things and even if such is your preference, you’re willing to admit it and, honestly, I don’t think you look ridiculous for admitting to a preference (or fetish, as some would like to call it). Don’t be ashamed of admitting things (like the fangirl admission. Heck, I’d be fainting if I saw J [as in Jun Onose, especially with his Jesus look *dies*] at close range!) and being honest. Just be true to yourself.^^ (Though I will admit, as an Asian lady, I still have a preference for hot, white men.
Lol please find me one of those yellow fever fetish white girls. Because I do in fact have nice hair lean and muscular figure and pale skin. And am Korean not chinese or southeast Asian.
I never had the chance to run into one. But please please please find me one of those loooool
here i am! add me on messenger…andre_andreeik@yahoo.com
Sounds like you’re just worried about your competition amongst other white females, to me… ^_~
Most definitely agree with b1ndy and Up. This was by far some of the stupidest rambling I have ever read.
Pulled white college girl
I dated a beautiful insane white girl with yellow fever once…never again. I always make sure that being Asian is not the reason they date me after that crazy lady.
you lucky bastard
insightful…. thanks!
I mean, I would prefer dating an Asian man instead of a white man because of my history with white men >_<. I don't even listen to "K-pop" or speak any eastern asian language. but I do like Asian men because in my past relationships they are the only ones who RESPECTED me and all of my asian relationships have always worked out pretty well. unlike my other relationships…
I think you have some insightful observations here, but it’s incredibly biased and hypocritical. I’m not exactly sure why you are trying to dissect, label, and classify people when that is exactly what you are telling people to avoid? To me, it sounds like you are having self-acceptance issues and you are projecting your judgment.
wow that’s very deep^^
unfortunately while i agree with some of the comments here i also agree with the article. since my preference is men with Asian features etc. i have many friends who think my boyfriends are cute just for the fact that their Asian. where as i think there cool because they like the same bands or other things in common with me. just because there are people out their from other country’s doesn’t mean that wont get along or be attracted to one another. just stay away from the girls like my best friend who instantly falls in love with any asian man she meets just cause he is asain!
same reason why asian girls should be wary of dating white men.. just sayin!
My friends say I’m obsessed with Asian guys. I read this wondering if i was like those girls. FYI I was being totally open and understanding if i was. Luckily after reading this article I’m glad to say that I’m not like them! I do prefer Asian guys because they are different from me, but also because I grew up that way. I grew up in Asian cultures even though I’m completely white. From birth till about 8 y.o. I grew up with Vietnamese and Chinese culture, then my friends and school taught me about japan until middle school. In middle school I always hung out with my friend from japan, and now im into like kpop. Whoa I got off topic! 😀 Currently I like a Vietnamese boy, a Burmese boy, and a Russian boy. I do love anime and kpop and jpop, but I also really like american and british songs/artists. I know for sure that it’s rare to find an asian boy as good looking as Bi Rain, Lee Joon, Choi Siwon and T.O.P. because they are celebrities, and how many ugly celebrities do you see?? But i am super interested in all the asian countries because as an american I feel as though I lack culture, and asian cultures are different but familiar to me. Currently I am learning Korean, but I actually plan to go there this summer, and I’ve picked up some Japanese, and I want to learn Chinese so I can communicate with my friend Xiamin because her english is still pretty poor. Not obsessed, just interested.
I am the opposite in this article. I love Kpop more than the American music industry or the way it is now… Just not as good. But ANYWAYS most girls now find asian guys more attractive do to the media and more people are influenced by the media even if they don’t want to be right? Like how would I know how people in Czechslovakia look like without watching their media. Honestly I’ve been following Kpop for a while and let’s face the fact, MOST girls are into music/media +gossip. From experience I can totally understand what you mean when you say that they perceive what they see in the media; so girls can’t really be blamed. My method is to go with the trend. Many girls are attracted to the Asian boy bands (dramas) and i can see why they like them. They dress nice/ wax/ perm hair … all that! One advice I would give to fellas’ is to follow the trend and look nice, just like how girls are.
I agree with most of what’s said in this article. Although I don’t think it’s ever as apparent as you make it sound. I think it’s hard to predict who you will be attracted to and why.
I think the girls you listed aren’t necessarily bad people that we should all avoid. I think they’re just girls who haven’t spent enough time reflecting on their emotions.
That being said, I do think there are some crazies out there. I’ve had a girl get mad at me once for not using chopsticks while eating dinner. Also, I’ve found that most white girls who are attracted to Asian men are into skinny, k-pop’esque androgynous males.
Anyway, not sure where i’m going with this, so i’ll just stop writing.
Good read though 🙂
Im sorry I just love your username…..hahahahaha 🙂 are you up all night working on your Bob Lob Law Law Blog?
I think you are making a lot of generalizations. The main reason why anyone approaches a potential partner in the first place is because they are physically attracted to them. Most people don’t begin a relationship for this reason though- they get to know the person and see if their personalities are compatible. If someone is attracted to Asian features, I don’t see what the problem is.
Also, I love that you insinuate that you’re someone’s ideal. “Finding a girl like me with this preference is, in my opinion, going to be very rare.” It seems like you’re jealous of the potential competition.
Well honestly maybe I’m yellow fever-ish? I have always liked Korean culture since I visited when I was a kid…I like Kpop too.Its not just that I only date Koreans its just that The college I go has a large amount of exchange from South Korea,and The guys I ask out, end up just always BEING Korean..Though I have dated Viet guy and he was one of the best boyfriends I ever had 🙂 But I don’t really think a culture will decide what a guy is like.
Case in point,My first boyfriend was Korean,He was so sweet,he made me very happy,He taught me a bit of Korean and We always had a bunch of fun together but he was an exchange student in my HS so he eventually had to go back and we kind of drifted as long distance couples sometimes do,BUT it was amazing and I wouldn’t trade that time for anything.We are still friends today and he is a great guy
THEN..
About 2 years later I dated another Korean guy he was nice at first..but he was very territorial and very mean,he put me down about my weight, what I wore, and talked bad about me to his friends ( which I only knew because one of MY friends had set me up with him because he was one of her boyfriends friends) He didn’t want me to have any life of my own and would get mad when I told him I wouldn’t sleep with him after I had known him for maybe 2 weeks.HE was the complete opposite of Ye-jun( my first boyfriend) SO it goes to show a culture does NOT make a person.
I DO like Korean Culture as a specific thing But I have dated other Asian guys and found them just as attractive as any Korean guy would be to me if he was interesting,funny, and attractive.
but since I do like Korean culture does that mean every Korean I have dated has been because of having “Yellow fever”? :/
Don’t listen to her, there’s no such thing as this “Yellow Fever”. She’s just an uneducated cow, who’s putting people down for their specific orientations. You’re comfortable with Korean, so simply be with Korean men. Find your love and don’t let some idiot put you down for it. I hope you find someone like Ye-jun again!!! <3
No such thing as yellow fever? Then you’re in denial and deluding yourself. Just as there is yellow peril (which was evident when Rambo was first shown in theaters. I was visiting the U.S. as a tourist when that happened) there is yellow fever. I am Asian (Filipino/Spanish blend, mistaken for Japanese when I was growing up in Manila because of my very pale skin and long, straight black hair, mistaken for Korean when I moved to Los Angeles, mistaken for Chinese or Vietnamese when I moved to Pennsylvania. Now I look more Spanish, according to some Arabs) and I will confirm this. Having to deal with old white ugly men with yellow fever is something I am sick of. Even when I was staying in New York for L’Arc~en~Ciel’s concert at Madison Square Garden, I had to put up with a white woman (who was fat and saggy and who was so insecure in my presence that it was really getting to me) with yellow fever saying how she was meant for Asian guys, etc. Oh my… ‘Desperate’ is how I would see her.
Also, isn’t it ironic that so many white people keep saying, “Oh, I love [Asian country name]’s culture,” yet cannot specifically point out what it is they love in the culture because they will sound totally ridiculous if, like in the case of Japan, they say anime, manga or Jpop/Jrock, etc.? Or maybe they’ll just say Gackt, HYDE, Yoshiki, Naruto, etc.?
While there is a particular Japanese look I like (and it is more the exception than the rule. No, nothing like Gackt’s girly look. In fact, when I see the pics of some of the Jrockers, honestly, I think they’re ugly! There are only a few exceptions who really look good), I will not put up with their personalities and culture. Heck, why would I want to be in a relationship where there is so much sex without being married (btw, I don’t sleep with someone if I’m not married to him), and then when you get married the sex dies? Long hours at work and mandatory drinking with the boss? No thanks! (Easy to be a girlfriend, not easy to be a spouse.)
For me, I couldn’t care less about his ethnicity. As long as I like what I see, it’s okay. That’s only the first step, however. Let’s see how they deal with an alpha female who doesn’t need a man to complete her. And it will be on my terms.
So far, I found this article to be a good read and the writer had some really good points about yellow fever. And if one has yellow fever, there’s nothing really wrong in admitting it. It doesn’t make one a bad person for having it. I say it’s just a preference despite the term used for it. Why not just admit it without feeling bad or being offended by the writer? Heck, as an Asian, I admit I never was into Filipino men. I always looked for white men (not the old ugly ones, though). Even my eldest brother was never into pure Filipina women. He married a white American woman. What’s wrong with admitting that? Nothing. It’s just being honest with yourself. If you even have to feel offended at this article, then I seriously question your self-esteem and confidence (and those of anyone else who is offended by this article).
I completely agree with you. “No such thing as yellow fever”. That woman is delusional.
I did not realize you are a
psychologist, silly you, trying to set yourself above what you call a
“yellow fever fetish”. I believe you are the one who said you do
not date anyone who is not Asian. Sounds to me like you have “yellow
fever fetish” as well, and in the end you’ll probably end up
marrying a white guy anyway, so why draw so much attention to
yourself….oh wait…that is the whole point right? All you want is
attention. I prefer Asian men as well, but I also do not shut any
other race out. If I find a guy I am happy with and he isn’t Asian,
then who CARES.
It sounds like the women you’re describing are just plain old stupid. So, guys, if you like stupid women, go for it. XD
Any white girl offended by these articles have a guilty conscience about their interests and preferences, and not enough self respect to honestly evaluate a good relationship. Tran is obviously not bashing all women who have a taste for Asian men. He is talking about the shallow ones who generally get into ALL of their relationships for the wrong reasons. If you’re offended, you should probably try being more honest with yourself and take the article with a grain of salt.
Whiops, I’m sorry, Heathe wrote this article. -_- im a dummy, sorry.
So edit: what EVERYONE on this site is talk about is…. Etc etc.
I don’t understand this, Asian people are looked down in western countries, why are there still non-Asian people that find them attractive ? Is it because of kpop, mangas and those stuff ?
Kpop was good till they mentioned they wanted to spread it all over the world. Asian stuff has to stay Asian, each culture in its homeland. America should do the same.
Peace.
Yes Kpop and manga are at least partially the reason, as of late Jeremy Lin is, too. Also, as a Kpop fan myself I would have to disagree with your sentiment about it staying in Asia. That would be like saying American Pop music should stay in America, British movies in Britain, anime and The Grudge in Japan, Chinese food in China, etc.
Yes, American Pop has to stay in America. Globalisation is killing so many cultures. Don’t forget that kpop was already well-known thanks to youtube in western countries. You can find everything you want on the internet already. If they come here, it’s like imposing upon us their culture. This is exactly what America is doing to us. It just has to stop !
First of all, do you read Manga?
Do you know that a lot of manga out there have NOTHING to do with Japan (even though they are written by Japanese)??
For example:
Bhudda- Story takes place in India
Berserk – This manga is about a medieval warrior fighting monsters in Europe
Valkyrie – A manga about Vikings in Norway
Hellsing – Manga takes place in England, dealing with Vampires
Sci-Fi Harry- Manga takes place in some small town in America.
Tokyo Tribes – Every character in this Manga is Black.
I can go on and on….
so how is Manga still “Asian” stuff when they incorporate so many characters from every country??
No I don’t read mangas. There are a lot of mangas that aren’t related to Japan, so what ? It’s still written by japanese people. So it’s the same. When hollywood makes a movie about Japan or China, it’s not asian either, it’s american… Samurai, Triad, kung fu master, old asian man with a weird accent…
That’s not at all what it’s doing people should be allowed to liek whatever they want and what countries they like and it is not at all imposing anything on us. I’m from the US and love Asian things. Some people like it others don’t, just because they get the chance to see the things they like up close shouldn’t be bad. I’m a huge Kpop fan and have been so happy that more and more groups are coming to the states lately (even if only to NYC and LA)
Sorry but you sound like a total racist.
It’s not just KPOP or stuff like that, and you just disrespect people in meaningful relationships by thinking they’re only together because of popculture.
On the second note, you’re so fucking racist, why the hell should they have to just stay in their on country??? You DO know the US was built off of people from all sorts of countries, right? Without a melding of people who DIDN’T stay just in their country, the US wouldn’t even EXIST. Fuck you, and get openminded. Without melding of cultures and such, the world wouldn’t be anything like it is now, would probably be exceedingly worse, plus probably still stuck in the middle ages.
Haha, another rage girl.
Racist ? Me ? Did I say that there were a race better than another one ? You’re making me laugh xD Usually, I avoid the word “race” because it doesn’t make any sense to me. We’re all humans with different cultures. That’s why we say “human race”.
When I see all these girls shouting when they see an asian man, it just makes me wanna puke. It’s not all about being closeminded. You just say so many bullshits xD Mixing ethnic groups kills culture, if you like dating people outside your ethnic group, it’s up to you, I don’t give a f**k.
Each culture in its homeland. This is what I hate about America. You’re saying that it belongs to you ? What about the indians you killed ? Stealing the land and saying it’s yours lol
Ok, um you are rediculous. You are a Racial Instigator dear, yes there is a word for people like you. Nothing is racist in her statment, i may not agree with everything she said but its only an opinion. By the way the US was not built of all other countries the doors didnt open until the 60s -70s, so its fairly new. read history sometime. Your just rehashing out the same crap weve heard for years coming from inexperienced uneducated minds to try and make a point by yelling this info then turning away as if they one like a child. There is nothing racist here. you are the one finding race issues in her writing you are the one with the problem. Example: A white and black guy are talking and are telling white and black jocks to one another, another white guy steps in and says after only hearing the white guys joke “what are you going to do to him? hit him? why would he say something like that” and instigates an issue that is not there because he was not there for the whole conversation, he has no idea whats going on and that both people were just playing around. Example 2: someone says how do you feel on gay rights? the other person says I dont care for it , the first person replies ” why whats wrong with you dont like gays?” , the other person only had an opinion it doesnt mean they are going to go out and start fighting gays or anything. You are the MIDDLE person, the person that creates problems, a Racial Instigator, and you people need to go, your the problem in our society, let us live our lives and stop being so damn much in other peoples business! get a life
The thing is asians are actually liked and that’s why they have people who are attracted to them. It’s not JUST because of the music or art, though that does have something to do with it. It also because the world is still eveolving and more and more asians feel comfortable migrating out of there countries. You who only thinks of white power should get that america is home to all races including asians, it’s just recently that asians want to move around the world. Noone can stop it so you might as well accept it or blindfold your self. It’s not gonna get any better for you.
Thank God there are men out there who disagree with your narrow-minded opinions about multiculturalism…
Ok I’m a white girl and I’m admittedly obessesssed with Asian popular culture (Kpop, Jpop, Jrock, dramas, movies, anime, manga, you name it, if it’s in East Asia I’ve probably at least tried it). But at the same time, I don’t prefer Asian guys because I have some preconceived idea of how they are because of my obsessions. I know things in Asian popular culture are like Hollywood, highly unrealistic. Even with my preference for Asian, not any Asian many will do, I’m still picky mostly on personality and on looks a bit. I’m an East Asian Studies major in University and I have many friends of Korean, Japanese, and a few of Chinese heritage and i’ll be studying abroad in Japan next year, hopefully staying with a host family. My point of all of this is, just because a girl has a bit of an obsession with Asian culture/ popular culture and knows a lot about it does not mean it affects her more than any other hobby. She can still be genuinely interested in an Asian guy for who they are, not how the media or stereotypes make them out to be.
I think it was Ebenezer Scrooge who trumpeted the virtues of decreasing the surplus population. I couldn’t imagine anything better for we caucasian men than the fetishizing of Asian males by both Asian and non-Asian women alike (both are intensely fetishistic towards Asian males these days). It ensures that the forest will be much more efficiently and quickly cleared of the children in favor of the adult female, you know, the one devoid of the indomintable Asian narcissim and incapable of lusting for the kind of parochial racism and ethnic hostility so highly coveted amongst the online Asian male support groups. Go get ’em, Heather, and keep ’em tied up with all the miracle that is you!
I think this is a load of bull! So what if someone is attracted to blondes, brunettes, computer nerds, etc. I’m a white woman and my husband is Chinese. Now what are you going to say? That I have yellow fever? I guess Bruce Lee’s wife had yellow fever too did she? I find attractive east asian guys hotter than attractive white guys….does this make me narrow minded? No…it is just something biological probably. Of course a lot of east asian guys are not lovable, like a lot of any guy. But my husband is so lovable and it was love at first site…for both of us….something shining in the eyes. Yeah he liked my “golden hair”, but that is not the reason we got married, love was the reason. I think whoever wrote this blog needs some love….love has no colour or opinion.
Well after reading this article and reading through some of the other comments I have a few points to make from my personal experiences that may be of interest.
First off I have dated a fair few European guys being European myself and to a point you do start off by looking within your own culture or what ever it is that you find familair to you until you eventually find out through experience what works. I have found that the European guys I have dated to be ill mannered, little culture or structure in their lifestyle, can’t hold much of a conversation and havn’t treated me very well…but I am sure not all ‘White’ men are like this as everyone is different in every culture.
I am now dating a Malasian guy and he is so nice and caring, he can cook, clean manage money and his life and no ‘mommy’ issues either. I do like anime, Manga, J/K Pop but i didn’t go out of my way to meet an Asian guy just so I could have my very own Dragon Ball Z character in my living room…its just personal exprience and unfortunately I am sure Asian men have been stung just the same way I have been stung by Guys that have come after me for the wrong reasons…its just takes discernment all round.
Peace 🙂
you definitely nailed it. It’s not about the race but the guy himself. It’s sad to see the guys who stung you on here like it’s asian men’s fault for them losing a girl like you, being all racist and ignorant. It really is sad.
It’s too bad “white” girls with Asian fetish are perceived as evil per this article. I just married a Japanese-ChinsesAmerican male whom I loved from day one for his smile and kindness…
congrats on finding your perfect match, and i think this article is mainly out of jealousy. You know like, white bad things about other white girls so she could have all the asian men to her self type of deal. Doesn’t turn me off from white women even if they know more japanese then me.
My German girlfriend (now wife) has a total fetish for asian guys, but only when it comes to sex. I had to find out this the hard way when she had sex with a thai guy during our Thailand holidays in 2007. If you are interested to read more about this please google “my girlfriend had paid sex with a thai boy”.
Rainer
I just read the article, I feel sorry for you. It has been very tough for you to handle this. If you were to date another girl, what would she say ?
I just hope interracial relationship won’t go too far. I truly believe it’s better to date people from the same ethnic group.
that’s a rather close-minded opinion. Just because one white woman turned out to be a cheating hussy don’t assume that all interracial relationships/marriages are doomed to fail… >.<
ur wife is fukked up….i feel sorry for u, do us asian men a favor and hang urself
That’s…. awkward. It’s best to keep stuff liek this to yourself. Dating someone from a different race, having sex and marrying them is fine but dude, she’s your wife and she has strong interests elsewhere. This is perhaps the one situation that even i would not involve myself in no matter how cute/sexy she looks.
Fuckin’ hell lady.
Sure some bimbos are idiots, but don’t make it sound like this is pure evil. I do find myself loving Japanese culture the most of others, but that is because I look into the real culture too. I plan on living in Japan because I like the language, the food, the culture. I hope to find an asian man because frankly, it is my own personal preference. I don’t mind other races, but I still have my opinions on who I think are attractive. Not as in “Omg supa kawaii!!!” attractive, but as in their own race’s general body structure, hair, eyes, etc. I find their general appearance most attractive.
This also doesn’t mean I’m some whore who’ll go bang any man I see. I bother looking into the guy’s personality too. If he’s a damn jerk, I’m not even going to look his way, so don’t go thinking any guy will do. That’s like saying any black guy will do, or any hispanic guy will do. Fuck you. People got to look for actual compatibility, no one is going to make an entire relationship off of “oh he’s so kawaii, sugoi!!!! <33333"
I find it very repulsive calling it "Yellow Fever Fetish", just because I like a certain thing doesn't make it a damn fetish. It's called an opinion, so get over it. You're giving those of us with different preferences then of our own race bad names, and by making people think all of us are fetishists, it ruins chances for real relationships. I know I don't have a fetish, and I don't want to be seen as one. You don't call people with a preference of seafood fetishists. when you coin the term fetish you automatically place everyone of a specific tendency in a bad light, whether you like to or not.
I agree, just cuse you like a culture and it’s people doesn’t make you some loony stalker. You love what you love, even gwen stephani is interested in the asian cultures and say stuff like “Oh, it’s so kawaii” but she isn’t stalking an asian man with a box cutter in her hands whispering if i can’t have him no one can. You arn’t a crazy stalker unless you already had mental problems before the asian fever, THEN you becareful. Otherwise there is no reason to worry about a girl who is very interested in what she likes.
Oh god my Asian fetish was so bad a year ago.
But my Vietnamese didn’t like that because he think I stalked other men or something… so I had to chill down.
But I mean that’s okay I got my Asian man now and proud of it.
And im proud of it! lol sounds like the American cliche nowadays, whatever i do im proud of it. wow what an accomplishment, be proud of your man and what he does not his race, it sounds like you caught him in a barrel swimming full of men floating randomly in a circle of all different races. As you finally hooked the asian guy you rejoiced that your fishing skills finally paid off, im proud of my acomplishment yay go me! either that or no asian guy would have you and you had to settle for a random one that found you just barely interesting. way to be proud
you are a very angry person. She got her ideal man and she’s happy. Whats wrong with that? I think your just angry cause you got noone or your not happy with your current woman. Go find that girl who perfectly fits your preference, and then come back and comment on someone who, she her self, found someone who perfectly fits her preference and we will see what you really think.
My opinion on Asians: Japan: the one Japanese girl I’ve met personally was autistic, insane, obese, and weird beyond all reason and a really bad example of Japan. In high school, there were a LOT of yellow fever chicks and zero Japanese people. Very annoying.Korean: I know zero Korean celebrities. None. Nada. And every Korean I’ve seen is more beautiful than any other Asian nation. It sounds weird, but that’s from personal experience, and there are quite a few Koreans around here.China: the one Chinese person I greater-than-acquaintance-relationship-with was fun to talk to and 20 years older than me. My Caucasian friend speaks Chinese and the sound of Chinese is more fun to listen to than Japanese. Chinese history is scary though…Mongolia: funniest Asian-me experience ever. Distinctly ‘Asian’ features. Could have walked out of Beijing–and spoke only Russian. Yeah that was funny. :)Taiwan: Not visually attractive, fun personalities. One Taiwan chick I know was obese; one guy I knew kinda looked like he had a car run over his face at birth or something, and they were some of the most fun people to talk to ever. Thailand: Thai guys–ugly as shit. Thai girls–often really adorable. I had 4 of them for neighbors. So. stinkin’. cute! Bangkok is on my list of ‘places that, as an author, I *really* need to go…’ Singapore: unfortunately, I know nothing about Singapore except it’s a city…Cambodia: Koreans are beautiful. (so far,) Chinese people are about average pretty/not pretty as Americans. Japanese people… 80% pretty, 20% ugly as shit. ! I have never seen a pretty Cambodian. Vietnam: And Vietnam is worse. Never seen a pretty one, and all the Vietnamese people I’ve met personally have personalities/habits from hell. Vietnamese neighbor was creepy as shit; a previous Vietnamese roommate filled the house with garbage and nearly ruined some of my oldest possessions. They’re not even fun over the *phone*. Yeah, I don’t currently like Vietnamese people. If you’re Vietnamese, nice, clean, and don’t whine like crazy and want to convince me otherwise, I’m all for meeting you.Philippines: Maybe it’s just that one neighbor… I really wanted to stuff a sock down his irritating little… He wasn’t *creepy*, just weirdly sickening. And my roommate dated him. Yuck. Burma/Myanmar, Laos, Malaysia: I’ve never met anyone from any of those countries to have a basis for comparison. Indonesia: do they even count? Ditto to India. What the heck: India, like Thailand has ugly, creepy looking men. Even when they don’t mean to be creepy, they’re creepy. Something with the eyes and the brow and the icky little mustache. Ew. Women… 80% ugly as shit, 20% really, really pretty–all dressed in some of the most beautiful clothing ever.
That… wasn’t supposed to be a glob. On people talking about Koreans being pretty farther down the line: that’s because personally, the Asian people I’ve met in ‘real life’, all the Koreans have been stunningly weirdly pretty. I’ve never personally met an ugly Korean person. Yet. Unfortunately, kinda like I’ve never personally met a Vietnamese person I didn’t clash with for some reason or another. 🙁
the vietnamese…once we conquer the chinese we will use them to conquer the world. hahah when we was weak the usa still couldnt conquer us…hahhah they miss their chance
You got some issues you need to work through. I’m japanese and i love korean women, even thai women. Haven’t really met a chinese that i was very attracted to yet though. Anyway, go work through that rage for… other asians…
the zippered eyed koreans.. slaves of the jap/usa… we must sacrifaice them to further the children of the dragons
Well, I have to say I can’t fault you here. You generalise here and there, but you’ve based observations on personal experience, which is a little better than stereotyping people and doing so ignorantly. I could probably do the same.
Japanese: Both Japanese women I’ve known have been some of the nicest people I’ve met. One was a middle-aged teacher who expressed a wish to be reincarnated as a cat and was always great for a talk and a giggle. The other, another teacher, was just full of enthusiasm and was contagious with it as well. If you thought you couldn’t do something before, she convinced you into thinking you actually can , and you believe it completely. She also had a wicked sense of humour.
Teacher: Since it’s the last lesson, I’ve made a lovely chocolate cake for you! (Honestly, how many of you have had teachers like this???)
Teacher: And for you [student A], I’ve made a lovely cake full of kiwi fruits!
Student A: But… I’m allergic to kiwi, I’ll die!!!
Teacher: (Smiling) I know…
And people tell me Japanese people don’t have a sense of humour…
Chinese: All the Chinese girls I know are nice people, although they tend to hang out with the other Chinese, leading to Cantonese conversations most mornings. And you’re right Fish Jones, Chinese does sound nice. One Chinese guy I’m friends with is a nice guy. Pressured by his parents, but a good person to go to for a laugh.
Mongolian: I’m very good friends with a Mongolian girl, who is the nicest person I know so far, and great fun. Since I’m of Scottish ancestry, we both like to joke that we’re from nations once shut out of neighbouring nations by poorly built walls (or at least walls that weren’t so much blockades than minor hindrances).
Thai: I know a family of Thai people who are all kind and loving people. The girls are sweet and bubbly, the boys are rambunctious (sorry if I’ve spelt that wrong), and the parents are so good at what they do.
These are the ones I can account for and will at the moment. I know at all I’ve had to say are nice things, but that’s probably because I’ve only met good people of these ethnic minorities. I must admit, I’m not well traveled.
80% of whites look like they walked out of a fukken cave, all the whites i meet are stupid as shiet…my white neighbor smokes crack infront of their kids
so your basing all whites off of a crackhead that lives next to you? you who lives in a drug neighborhood, what does that say about you? shhhieeet <—-
I’m sorry, but while I can understand your impression of whites based on your experience, it looks like you haven’t met the classy ones. I’ve met classy ones, and they are very good-looking and very intelligent. In fact, better looking than a lot of Asian men. And I am Asian.
you gotta travel more, I seen some of the most beutiful white women, and ive seen soem women that might as well have been men cause no way in hell could i tell from looking. I won’t deny that alot of white people in general are, pretty damn hard to look at, but then again it’s probably the same in every race. Hell imma admit, even we asians got some that i would rather avoid, but you also gotta admit, there some damn hot ones. Move outta your hell hole and go someplace with class, i’m sure your views will change. Unless it’s a preference, i mean i can’t take black women myself, but it’s not anything based on location. They just arn’t my cup of (green) tea.
People in the
poorest northeast and south with black skin working in bars are not Thai ethics but were conquerred and have
been ruled as slaves by thai ethic shan minority or, in anglor wat language, siam. These non-thai ethics of black skin are forced to work in bars at night( never during daytimes), and use spotlight beam on their black skinned bodies to make them be fakely white at night, so that they can sell to you. Whitemen caucasians misunderstand their
position in Asia and can get only non-Thai ethic black skin Issan women who are
the lowest class. If you visit the center of the capital city of thailand, we
see a typical paring of low iq whitemen caucasian with non-Thai ethic black
skin Issan women. This scene makes Thais or Siam of gold light skin (once living in east asia and migrating to southeast asia) laugh at white caucasian.
Asian women outside Asia are not asian spirits but asian looks, they were born out of the motherland Asia and cannot speak their mother tongue or if can learn their mother tongue, they cannot speak with the asian accent.
In thailand, middle class teenagers are crazy for men of our race and other brotherhood asian men i.e. chinese men, korean, japanese, indian men. they are never crazy for white caucasians. Black skinned Issan women under the rule of Thai ethic minority never go for whitemen too, but do everything for money only.
Thailand is a developing country due to racial conflicts, the ruling race is Thai while other 41 races have been put under rule by Thai ethic minoriy of light gold skin, and the real thai ethic minority never work in bars.
Asian women outside Asia are not asian spirits but asian looks, they were born out of the motherland Asia and cannot speak their mother tongue or if can learn their mother tongue, they cannot speak with the asian accent.
In thailand, middle class teenagers are crazy for men of our race and other brotherhood asian men i.e. chinese men, korean, japanese, indian men. they are never crazy for white caucasians. Black skinned Issan women under the rule of Thai ethic minority never go for whitemen too, but do everything for money only.
Thailand is a developing country due to racial conflicts, the ruling race is Thai while other 41 races have been put under rule by Thai ethic minoriy of light gold skin, and the real thai ethic minority never work in bars.
ok then…this is a really weird article that is actually rather offensive to me.
Dear Asian guys,
The majority of us who like Asians do not apply to any of these stereotypes above ^
you’ll be able to tell right away whether you want to date this girl or not, so DON’T think that we’re all obsessed idiots without even getting to know us. The ones who do apply to this article simply are not mature enough for love, and this is going to be a very obvious thing, so please talk to us. Asian culture is so unique and fun to learn about 🙂
Love, a normal white girl
i have begun to like Asian men a lot in the past year. those feelings in fact come from falling in love with the country of Japan through anime and such, but this article is a ridiculous exaggeration of us. you can find girls everywhere who prefer specific traits, its just natural, and this article says that when you like Asian men, you expect certain things. uhm…no. ” the lean yet muscular figure ” is actually what the majority of American girls want. these preferences ARE NOT UNIQUE TO PEOPLE WHO LIKE ASIAN MEN. (personally i do not expect these traits in anyone)all this article achieves is an unnecessarily negative view towards white women who like Asians. No, it is not rare to find people who appreciate the person himself. “She may not like you for anything more than your ethnicity. It’s a very shallow attraction, and any Asian guy could probably do it for her.” well yeah, if this is on of those creepy obsessed girls we’re talking about. but these girls are found everywhere, just look at Justin Bieber’s fans. ANYBODY, not just Asians, should watch out for these girls.i can see what you’re trying to say, but it’s coming across wrong. if a white girl likes Asian things, it’s probably because she is fascinated by the culture (example: me). this article is stupid. I’m sorry, but it is. “Finding a girl like me with this preference is, in my opinion, going to be very rare.” that’s not an attractive thing to say. seriously, this quote right here makes me think you are actually one of those obsessed girls. Go home and think over your life. change it. open your horizons and do not generalize people. And then especially do not give others false advice because it spreads your ignorance. good day.~from a pissed off white girl who actually has a brain and uses it.
Yes! Thank you so very much, Rosegarden43, for expressing that thought so well. Complete support here that -not- every girl who enjoys the culture and the people is superficial and immature.
I strongly disagree, In the late 90s when rap was hugely mainstream and popular, tons of white girls wanted to date black guys here in the states. Now that Asian culture (specifically japanese) is hugely popular due to anime and gaming they want Asian guys, its a pretty sad world when you cant even notice a guy for who he is sitting next to you because he just looks different and you need some mainstream influence to get you to look at him in a different light. Just like the other girl said when asian guys need to get to know you, you didnt even get to know them , you being hypocrits.
A hype is a hype, you can’t help that. Like how all the girls who like n’sync or the backstreetboys would compare every guy to them, but eventually that hype fades as it is only a hype. Besides, anime and video games don’t really portray asian men, infact almost every character in the video games are white, and in anime the only thing that the characters have thats asian is the voice, name, and language. Everything else resembles white people. Now being attracted to asian men cause of there looks and how they act are completely different. It’s the same as us guys liking a girl cause of her hair, her body, or how she acts. Race plays a card only because certain race hold race specific traits that appeal to that individual. They like asian men cause of —enter reason here— and asian men like white women cause of —enter reason here—, so there is no reason to get all angry and start calling them names cause of there preference. If you do your no better for likeing whatever women, even your own race.
funny that this is written by a white girl.
Correction: A white woman who is attracted to asian men. She is probably just trying to scare them off, so she can have them all to herself!
wouldn’t be surprising, If i could hoard all the girls in the world i might do the same. It’s human nature. Also would it STILL be funny if it was written by a latino or black girl? and again would it be even funnier if it was written by an asian girl?
Dear White girls,
If you like Asian cultures, you must study Buddhism. Take its teachings to heart and practice. If you are Christian, you can still practice Buddhist teachings and see Buddha as your teacher while God as your father. No conflict there. Then Asian men will find you more attractive because you are able to understand the philosophical and practical teachings of Buddha. Not many people understand the teachings and not many people practice the real teachings. No many people practice alms giving. Not many people think about others. Not many people donate their money and services to help the poor, hungry, and the sick. Many people care about themselves more than anything now. The world is now in confusion and chaos because no moral and virtues are taught anymore.
Only learn and practice Buddhist teachings because you are interested in it not because you want to impress anyone. Buddhism is very enriching and will bring happiness to your life. Thank you for listening.
-Asian beggar
Wow, I don’t think I could explain it better! I study Buddhism, but I am a catholic. I find the Buddha’s ways to be more humbling. Let me tell you though, the eight-fold path would be pretty hard to follow! Haha, happy i’m not Buddhist:P
Whoa same here! Im also a Catholic who studies Buddhism and I honestly think that there are so many things in common with its teachings. Especially caring for the poor and the sick. Like my heroes are Mother Teresa and Buddha. Both my strong Christian values and what I’ve taken from Buddhism have strengthened my personal character and let me see outside myself. Its made me want to devote my life to others. And all that was even before I knew much else about East Asian culture.
I definitely like a woman like that. Not a catholic that studies buddhism, but someone who is one thing but open to other ideas. I think that is what this whole thing is about, not just saying I like asian men cause of this ideal and i’m closed off to other ideas but having a preference but still accepting of so much more. I don’t know if that is what your inner meaning is but that’s what i got from your comments.
As an Asian woman, I’m glad white girls are finally starting to take notice of our men. but like all race based attraction there’s always something dodgy about it. The racist ones annoy me the most. ‘Ooh I only like Japanese men’, ‘He has an ugly Chinese look’. Liking another race is supposed to make you more open minded, not more xenophobic. Clearly they see these men not as individuals but as a fantasy of what their race is supposed to represent. These girls are no better than the delusional white guys with Asian fetish.
I totally agree, you can’t just focus on a culture of men just because you saw someone attractive once on tv. Hell, i love all women, (cept black women and i don’t know why. i’m perfectly happy with hispanics and native american girls, and i haven’t met a single black man that i didn’t like). I understand that every race has some feature that is appealing but likeing a culture of a man? Now that’s just confusing.
Post by: deliberate Time: 24-Oct-2008 8:04
You guys are all still (still) talking about old, folklore and pop-culture-based stereotypical beliefs.
You have to look at the glass half full instead of half -empty!
I’ve been to China 7 times…
I have seen some very masculine HOT and BIG Chinese dudes. Maybe I don’t waste time looking at the small, wimpy, computer nerdy, fem Chinese dudes you are all talking about, but I honestly didn’t see any like that.
I think that because of different traditions and different needs in their society (Chinese daily life is NOT easy like ours is) their tastes are different… but if you look past the brightly colored clothes or the fact that the dude might not be totally ripped with a 6 pack and might not be a cocky bastard “player” like lots of western “hot” dudes are, then you could see real masculine beauty and strength with Chinese men.
Especially in Qingdao I saw lots of tall, large-framed Chinese men whose faces almost made me drop in my tracks…I mean literally, “drop dead handsome”. And they are also “exotic” in that they are “different” than what we’re used to…they’re (usually) not as “cocky” as western guys and are much less assuming. They tend to be a little more reserved, shy and perhaps conservative…but they still would love to have a try with a western woman (if they’re single that is– want to stress here: don’t go out and break up homes in china now western girls!).
to be continued in next post (it’s long)
Post by: deliberate Time: 24-Oct-2008 8:05
I’m married to a Chinese man (from China). He’s pretty atypical for a Chinese man if you think of most Chinese men as you’ve all described above…But I’d venture to say there are plenty like him.
He’s tall (over 6 feet tall) and weighs almost 200 lbs and LOVES to go to the gym. He’s really independant (not easy to push this guy around) BUT he’s fiercely loyal and does think my opinion as his wife matters with important decisions and so he does ask me. His traditional little cultural inuendos and quirks are just endearing and provide me with a great learning opportunity about him and his culture and humanity (and help me constantly look at myself)…
Now, that being said…I wondered (painstakingly) as I walked the streets in China what the hell American or western women are thinking? Where are their heads? up their asses? (sorry girls…I have to ask this) bEcause there really are some HOT guys there!!!! And ones that are worth asking out if you (and they) are single!!
If you NEVER ask them out or present a situation where they can ask YOU, then you’ll never know how delightful an experience a Chinese man is!!! You just have to give it a go and see for yourself!!!! It’s wonderful!!!
Post by: ScubaSteve Time: 20-Oct-2008 17:04
“I mean, have you ever heard a Western man humming along (loudly) to ‘My heart will go on’ on the streets!?”
perhaps, Chinese dudes just have really bad taste in music, did you ever think of that?
this is a silly post. Western dudes like Chinese girls because they’re exotic and submissive, not to mention that a lot of ex-pats in China couldn’t cut it w/ the ladies back home.
Western chicks aren’t really that attracted to Chinese dudes, yes because of the aforementioned smaller bones and height issue, but perhaps you can allow yourself to elaborate:
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Chinese women (according to a Durex condoms poll) are, globally, some of the least likely to regularly achieve orgasm during intercourse, most likely because dudes just don’t know what buttons to push. Add on the FACT that most Western women have a longer cervix and you’ve got a sexual mis-adventure waiting to happen
Post by: Top_of_the … Time: 22-Oct-2008 10:41
I’m a guy, so maybe I can’t really speak for women, or know all of their tastes, but I have met Chinese guys that I think Western chicks can dig. These are guys with charm, talent and self confidence (EG, a talented guitarist who works out at the same gym as I do) and that are quite handsome as well.
The problem with most of these dudes is that they are unfit, thin and weak, and in that sense, somewhat pathetic, and too many of them are computer nerds who spend more time with computer games and chat rooms than real people. I think its a bit of a generational thing and that China’s urban environment is very unfriendly to youth. Also, it is generally really boring unless you’re ready to spend quite a lot of money.
As for the comment above clearly referring to a “size matters” issue, I think it’s incredibly juvenile, and in terms of physiological mechanisms of pleasure, fully backwards. You can have the tiniest tool in the world, but if you know what you’re doing, still give chicks the most insane orgasms they’ve ever experienced, in sets of three. The cocksure simpleton above has about the authority on this subject as a pimply, junior-high school jock. Ignore him. Real women looking for meaningful relationships rarely factor “size” into the equation.
Culture differences: many Western women are quite independent and used to sharing the house chores with their men. In many Chinese cities, the woman is expected (regardless if she has a full time job or not) to take care of the household, make dinner, and so on, with no additional help from the man (except for if she lives in Shanghai! The Shanghai men are apparently real house helpers). I find it hard to imagine a western woman settling for this when she’s been brought up in a completely different society. At least I know I wouldn’t.
3. Language barrier (needs no further explanation)
4. Lack of mutual attraction?!
When I first moved to China I caught myself thinking that ‘I will never find an Asian man attractive… they are just not my style….’ But then, something happened?! I don’t know if my eyes needed time to adjust to the different scene or what… but suddenly I started to see attractive Asian men on the streets (China, Korean, Japanese…)
I think it might have something to do with the fact that you first come, and think that everyone looks the same (this goes both ways: many Chinese have told me that they think all western people look the same) and then it takes a while for your eyes to adjust and actually distinct people? Anyways, that’s how I felt it was. After something like 8months-1 year I started seeing a lot of attractive Asian men, and the funny thing is, that when I pointed them out to western friends who had just come here/who was here for a visit, they just looked at me and frowned.
Maybe the eye needs some time to get used to things? I don’t know what other way to explain it… Nowadays I can think that many Asian men are attractive. When me and one of my girlfriends travelled to Seoul in Jan this year we were both quite amazed how good the guys looked, how well they dressed, and so on. (Although, to me, simply being attracted isn’t enough to start dating. There obviously needs to be a personality click as well)
In general, I think Chinese men are more feminine than Western men. A classic example is the ‘man bag’ that became trendy some years ago… In China a man bag seem to be able to look like a woman’s handbag and still be OK for a man to carry around??! (and then there are of course Chinese men carrying around their woman’s hand bags… so those shouldn’t be mixed up!). Try getting a Western man to do that = instant failure.
Also, Chinese men can go and have a manicure, something that I think I’d have to violently force on my Western bf, if I wanted him to get one (I don’t, however!). I also think that Chinese men in general wear tighter clothes and more bright colours than western men .. I don’t know, many of them just feel ‘more in touch with their feminine side’ than western men (I guess I should mention that I moved from Finland to China, and Finland being the most masculine country I have ever lived in -not in a good way!!!) I also get this feeling that Chinese men are a bit more sensitive than western men. I mean, have you ever heard a Western man humming along (loudly) to ‘My heart will go on’ on the streets!?
So, could I date a Chinese man (IF I was single)?! I don’t know. I think my main concern would be the culture differences. I think that a Chinese man would find me very bold, opinionated and obstinate, and I am not sure how he would deal with that? (gosh, I like to put myself in a bright light, don’t I?! But I have strong opinions! I could never hide them). Also, I love doing sports?! Meaning: I love sweating. Not considered very feminine in China?
Chinese northerners higher than Southerners
The southerners highest is the people of Shanghai,Average176CM NanjingAverage176CM, HangzhouAverage175.6CM 18-year-old
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Very cool article. But it’s hard to differentiate a girl with “yellow fever” versus one that is just very fascinated and focused by Asian pop culture. The same as you prob couldn’t figure out if an Asian dude has a fetish for western culture. I think one respondent mentioned being immersed in the culture itself. As an Asian man who grew up in the U.S.A. all I ever saw was Western pop culture, so my tastes are adjusted as such. I think the term “yellow fever” is so specific and, in an odd way, counterpoint to breaking any race barrier. Seems to draw attention to the preference and comes off, to me anyway, a fetish rather than preference.
I’m asian and I find myself into white girls. Where are all my tall, curvy white girls at?
<~me!! ME~~~MEEEEEEEE~ Sorry I am taken though! =)
lol, i’m one. 🙂
got the curvy 😉 ……..but not the tall 🙁 …lol haha
😉 Hi…
i’m korean and only date white women
you should expand my friend. I try all women, not just white. Hell i’m actually turned off by black women and even still i try my best and see if i can change that ( so far, no good but hey at least i’m trying right?).
yes, but are you willing to marry them?
sure I always wanted marry white woman someday.
I was on the train and I had to stand because there were no seats anywhere, so I stood by the door holding on to the railing and on the next stop a girl gets on (she was Italian I think, Idfk) and she also had to stand. As she stood next to me on the opposite door next to mine she noticed me and she kind of looked at me as if she never saw an actual Asian guy before, I swear to god this girl went from looking at me with this weird look to looking at me with curiosity up and down thinking intently to herself and then finally as the train got a bit shaky she was nearly right next to me, she was so close I could smell her hair and I could feel cool air moving from her movements, I could feel her eyes on me and judging from the people sitting down looking at us there was definitely something going on, I was so weirded out by it that I didn’t even know what to do, it was some sort of mystical Asian power rofl! To me it seemed like an Asian fetish literally hitting her right then and there, she might as well have been hypnotized or something because it was like she didn’t see me as a person but more as an object, kind of flattering I guess but really, really strange. I couldn’t bring myself to say a single thing, I stood there thinking “W…T….F…. Is this really happening right now….!!? Uhhhh….. Am I about to get fondled and molested like a Japanese school girl on a bus..?!?” Being a man I was freaked out, she was looking at me like she wanted to rape me over a pinball machine, do I need to carry a fucking whistle?!? In any case, I promptly got off several stops later, not that I don’t like white girls (I really don’t have a preference, pretty is pretty and I don’t use my dick like a divining rod lol), it was just bugged out. If thats what Asian girls go through then my god… Putty in their hands. More like sock puppets… Lol I felt pretty good walking home I will admit 🙂 I am the vagina whisperer!
Im mixed Korean/German and I only date women 🙂
Interesting…I prefer asian men, but i’m not a freak…Just racial/Cultural preference. One thing I hate though is anime/manga! Ewwww!,
buddy are you a troll?? You are not full Asian maybe she thought you look exotic because you are mixed.
LOL great story sounds fake though, you are not even full Asian.
omg hilarious post! haha as a white european woman i must tell you i have experienced this from men of different races, many guys sexualize women in this way and they show it in a strong disrespectful way.That woman possibly had the hots for you and she couldn’t hide it(us mediterrenean women are very expressive^^)and now you can feel how intimidating that is and why feminists are mad about it 🙂
Hi, I’m a young teenage white girl. I guess you could say I have that fever because I’m into KPOP and all that. I agree with this article, but only if you’re talking about young anime or kpop fans. Most of the teenage girls my age can be like that, but I’m not close minded about it while saying I’m open minded. I would like to think people in college are a bit more mature than that. I also watch Taiwanese dramas and some Japanese anime along with Korean dramas. I just love the culture in general, the sound of the language is beautiful to me and it’s just all intriguing. I also find that I like Asian guys in general because of their black hair and usually bigger lips than Caucasian. They’re also very in tune with style. While that can’t be said for all of them, it seems to me that its more common. These guys know what’s up, and it seems they’re more hygenic as well. Also, I think thinner guys are more attractive. I don’t know if you can call this a fetish or an obsession or whatever, but I’m definitely not all up in their face about it and I can honestly say that there are attractive guys in every race, not only Asian. I just tend to be biased toward Asian guys in general, because of korean media, the culture, and style. I also learned tae kwon do when i was younger without knowing it was an Asian art, if that adds anything.
I don’t know what age has much to do with preference of race in men. Being attracted to thin guys only means you like a guy who don’t let himself go, I think most guys are like that about women as well. I personally never let the main stream media or something online or in a magazine effect my love of white women but if asians really do rock your boat, then let it rock.
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I would be careful my friend, there are some crazy bitches on here. You sound interesting, though, do you really want some 14 year old KPOP loving girl, stalking you? But, I guess all women who like asian guys aren’t creepy. I’m not:P
Jarle, you best watch your self. Above woman has a damn good point. Some crazy women out there, and i don’t mean just white either.
I actually think this article is quite biased. I major in asian studies, and minor in Englsih, and yeah, I do like asian men better! But I do because I love Chinese history. I bet half of the people even know who Mao Zedong or Deng Xiaoping even is! Actually, The only famous asian man I thought was attractive was Bruce Lee (Who died yesterday 39 years ago. Rest in peace Bruce!) because of his Philosophy and innovation! I think the only “anime” I watched was that Avatar show when I was younger. So before you make accusations about cultural/racial preference, think a little outside of the box, please.
Sincerely, angered white woman:P
This lady obviously doesn’t know shit about white women! the ironic thing is, she is one! I mean, you gotta hate on your own race, so you can look all smart typing articles and shit?! Dayum girllll, chill out! I bet you are just like these crazy chicks in real life. Don’t even lie, I remember watching that video of you stalking that dude at the bookstore, and going to that restaurant all the time to make goo goo eyes at that oriental man! You foolin’ yourself, my ole’ chapette!
completely agree with the above ^^. first she posts about having her own type of “fever” in http://www.asianmanwhitewoman.com/heather/interracial-dating-advice/once-you-go-asian-you-cant-go-caucasian-or-why-white-girls-think-asian-boys-are-better/
then she contradicts it by writing this one. there are not a whole lot of differences between what she claims to be and what she warns about. I assume most of the women on this site like asian men and thats what this site is for, so I dont see any need to diss these “fetishes” which also in itself I agree is a rude way to label them. preferences are preferences and we are all allowed our own without anyone giving any so called “warnings” for so and so to stay away from so and so, for no apparent good reason.
ps. I am a fan of asian guys myself, specifically southeast. viet, laos, cambo… the best.
I like the Vietnamese as well. This one guy I always go to at a nail salon, he gets the polish on in all the right places! We always have conversations about what Vietnam was like and all that stuff, and we actually went out to eat once, but then I found out he was married! I never went there since, but I still think he was purtty cute and informative!:P Guess I will just have shitty nails until I find another place to go…:(
you should just still go, now be friends!
My last girlfriend had a huge thing for Asian men. And it seemed that she lumped us all into one big pile. So I dumped her.
A lot of her comments started with “you’re so Asian” after menial things I would do that triggered her to think this way. Whether she was being facetious of not, “typecasting” in a relationship does happen and, as the writer indicated should be avoided. I grew up in the Midwest and had grown with a preference for white women. Having grown up with two sisters as well, it just seemed natural that I saw most women of my culture to be seen as “sisters” and not romantic interest. So, I feel when we talk about preferences, it is usually what we were surrounded with. A white woman who spends a great deal of time in Asia would probably more than likely want to surround herself with all aspects of that culture. That said, I don’t think culture has a HUGE thing to do with. Well, it does and it doesn’t. In my line of work, I know 5 people over the age of 40 who are having HUGE difficulties finding girlfriends. All white dudes. So, yeah…we Asians can’t make excuses that it’s our portrayal in the media, rumors, gossips or off-colored jokes.We just have to keep our eyes open (joke intended) and look for the signs that our value is bigger than we realize.
Lol i get that “your so asian” thing all the time and you know what i do? I joke about it, make it into a very unimportant thing. If she had no other good quality other then she had a huge thing for us asians then yea, dump her. But comeon, If you can’t even make some racist jokes about your self or asians in general how can you make racist jokes about every other race, religion, creed, and way of life?
Was she hot??
Ummmmm.. srry im a lil’ offended with the warning to be careful if a girl “can reference more Asian pop-culture or speak more Chinese than you can” comment….cause it hits a little too close to home.
But not cause I’m an objectifying fangirl…but because I’m majoring in East Asian cultures/languages, have taken Mandarin since high school, and have grown up hearing Korean oftern (and speak some). Yes, I will admit that my guilty pleasures are Super Junior, ice cream, and an Asian Drama marathon-but that doesnt mean I expect my man to look like Choi Siwon or Vanness Wu.
In contrast, in my currently single status, currently residing in N. America’s west coast, it is likely for me to flirt/date/etc. an Asian man, however, it also likely that that Asian man is a native californian/seattlite/torontonian/whatevs and may be more North American than me. (aka they cringe as I eat chicken feet, what asian pop culture references they know they learned from me, and yeah I might speak better chinese) Cause yeah he isnt gonna fall into some weird fantasy OR the stereotypes. But I’m by no means the average girl.
My point is- Yeah sure theres cray cray girls out there no matter what kinda guys they into. Girls can treat their men as accessories regardless of their race-and men should be aware of that. Girls shouldnt generalize Asian guys-thats for sure. But girls who like Asian guys (as well as Asian pop culture) shouldn’t be generalized either. They (WE) get enough crap for that already. This is the last place we need it.
What’s a super junior? I’m actually pretty pathetic when it comes to asian pop-culture. I am more into Chinese history Like Mao Zedong, Yu Haobang, Deng Xiaopeng, Qin Shihuangdi etc. Buuuuuuut, I was never really interested in pop culture of any sort:( Just my thing.
It’s Korean pop boyband…my aunt got me hooked. I like history though alot too. But Im shamefully a pop culture junkie. Eastern or Western, old school or current.
yeeeaahhh, Super Junior!
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There’s only one thing that’s more F*cked up with this article, and that is my name!:O
Damn, cross that out, I mean than*
I only know three famous asian men who I think are attractive. Bruce Lee, Yu Darvish and Jeremy Lin. Which one do you think is better looking? I have to say Bruce lee because I just love Bruce Lee..
While the ones you named are attractive, they don’t really compute with me. I’d rather look at someone like J.
Jeremy Lin……….. <3 <3 <3 What a stud. Though Bruce Lee is just such a boss in his own right.
I think it’s funny how contradicting this article is. This girl is putting others down so that she looks better about her asian obsession. Yeah, we should date “a girl like her” because she likes asians because of Netflix! And this is somehow better than cosplaying girls who like asians because of anime! Rofl no. Get a life, creepy ass bitch.
lol.. my feelings exactly!
Ironically, this writer writes about her countless dates with Asian men, sports “Asian boys are better” shirts, eats with chopsticks daily… but yet, any other girl who falls into the category of liking Asian culture (“a tad too much”) is absolutely insane.. lol! Please.
I’ll be the first to admit that as a white american woman, I love Asian men!
And I am not into modern Asian culture, as much as American culture.. (I don’t sport around my interest in any way, and in fact no one really knows that I prefer Asian men, except for me).. but I won’t knock another woman who may be more open and in-your-face with her fascination. It doesn’t necessarily make her a crazy looney, or mentally unstable.. and it would only make me look like a HYPOCRITE for knocking someone for liking the same thing I like!
Lol, Ojo. Stereotypical asian fetish woman right here. You get mad that the author of the magazine for pointing out every crazy girl and their insane fetish for asian males and call her contradictory. Funny.
I think a bunch of girls have already posted similar comments, but I’ll write down my thoughts anyway.
I started watching anime and became a bit obsessed with Japan, from there it spread to and interest in Korean and Chinese culture. I was never a weaboo, I just found them fascinating because they seem so different from my own country. It seems like eventually I sort of naturally fell into favoring Asian men. They don’t specifically need to be Japanese, Korean, or Chinese, I just have a bit more knowledge of those countries over Thailand or Vietnam, etc.
All the Asian guys I know are Asian-American. I don’t expect them to act like an off-the-boat Asian dude. I feel attracted initially to the looks, that’s what brings you closer. But then it’s all about personality. If you expect to be treated like the heroine of a k-drama, with your brooding but extremely thoughtful and loving and romantic man doting on you with his fantastic hair and sense of style and lack of sexual needs, then you, my dear, are a fucking idiot.
TL;DR- Liking the looks of Asian boys can draw you in, but any relationship should be about personality.
a girl can hope cant she? …………..Hahahahah jk-I feel ya totally girl. A relationship can’t be built (aka cant be a relationship) based on looks/race it needs so much more like you said personality, but also other stuff like communication, values, etc.
This summer I started becoming interested in Korean culture because I got into watching Korean movies which led to liking Korean dramas and then to Korean pop music. For a while I tried to hide the fact that I liked Korean films because I knew people would judge me. Eventually, I gave up on trying to hide it because I craved Korean plots that were different from tired out Western plots and didn’t half as much sex. To this day, I’m still resistant to learn anything about anime and manga because of the assumptions that go along with it. Where I live, girls who are into a lot of Japanese stuff are kind of weird white girls with an obsession so big they hardly talk about anything else. Whereas most of the people I know who like Korean stuff happen to be Asian and became exposed to it from a mutual Korean friend and are more like me in that they enjoy it but don’t go over board. And as much as I’m may be going through Asian guy phase, its not like I’d say they’re my type. Before Asian guys, I payed more attention to Indian/Middle Eastern guys… I don’t think there’s a particular race I’m attracted to… I like guys who wouldn’t wear make up but care about how they dress in order to look nice (not sagging their jeans) but maybe wearing a polo. I don’t want a guy who puts more effort into fashion and looking unique than I do. I like guys with strong jaws who are masculine and I don’t want to date guys who are, in my opinion, too thin. I like guys with broad backs and chests rather than someone who is lean and muscular. I feel like the stereotypical girl who’s attracted to Asian guys looks for the opposite of all that yet I know plenty of Asian guys who fit that description and plenty of other guys of other races that fit that as well.
srrry… I realize a wrote a lot for just a few points which were:
I’m tired of judgement made on some girls for enjoying aspects of a different culture, asian culture in particular… and that affects how open I am about my own interest and willingness to explore other cultures’ media
there are some girls who can get obsessive about anime like I said before, but there will always be girls like that… I mean look at some of Justin Bieber’s fans, in my opinion they go overboard, but i guess there’s a reason y they do what they do and i act differently
I dont think people have tastes that are subjective to only one race but maybe some preferences that can be affect by their environment and media… there was a period of time that I watch Bollywood videos on youtube a lot
IN YOUR OWNS WORDS HEATHER, You have Yellow Fever !
check out what you said:It’s refreshing, honestly, to be able to talk about Japanese bands, Korean actors, or Chinese pop and not have to go into any background information.
Answer me honestly Heather, do N. American women go doing this to other races (i.e., talk of their bands, actors, po etc.)of other races of males ? only Asian ones isn’t it ? WHY ? !
‘IF’ this was the case ALL N. Amercian women would be doing this, don’t you think ?
Or, only YELLOW FEVERED women like you ? !
I happen to like British bands a lot… I listen to a band and then find out their British. Also, I happen to love italian food, it’s called preference Roger. When it comes to men I like any race I’m puertorrican and am a mix of races pretty different from most people: white but can tan easily, large hips but skinny, yellow eyes, beach wave hair that can be jet black in winter and turn almost red in summer… I’m proud of my heritage, looks and just happen to find Asian men fucking sexy… Fetish maybe… I don’t know, I just fucking like their looks. About the stereotypes that come with being an asian man well it would be cool if all men I date wr smart. I guess since the asian culture can be a little more serious, SOME of the political and social standings of asian countries are like that, then they tend to take studies more seriously and therefore are more educated… then again puertorrican people aren’t considered to be stereotypical smart but I am smart…. In the end stereotypes may be there for a reason but people shouldn’t assume it to be so… Every person is different. I like a little of everything. And physically… Asian boys (licks lips)… bring it on.
I like asian guys because I grow up in a japanese community here in Brazil. So, I’ve being falling for asian boys since I was 5 years old…
So basically you like asian men so much better than those mediocre, superficial, animed up chicks, that you needed to write an article about it. That’s quite an achievement.
But since free advice is being thrown around this page, allow me to join in:
Stick to guys that can look past the fact that you are a boring person, so insecure about her choices that she needs to rip on others for pretty much doing the same thing she does for the same reason, only doing it a little different. And I’m not defending anime grils, I hate anime with a passion, just for your information.
P.S. As I try to write an article about asian/white romances, I run into many messed up forum posts and blogs. This one takes the price. Congratulations.
Heather is a wine connoiseur of asian men. We are mere objects for her infatuation for a social cause
when you start using chemicals and coloured contacts and eye surgury and
jaw surgury and nose jobs all bringing their features closer to
westerners, not africans or any other races, thats when I say :how can
you possibly say they are not trying to look western? They throw
themselves at western guys, try and physically ‘change’ their
appearance. Some western women get plastic surgury usually older women
mind you, however the difference and this is a big difference is that
the average western women getting surgury is not trying to do a “Micheal
Jackson” on themselves they are usually getting a boob job or face lift
etc. Basically trying to look younger again. Asian women are trying
to look totally different to how they are naturally. It looks
incredibly fake, and is just sad.
I 100% agree.
read my comment, you sad panda. Get out, travel the world, wear other people shoes, understand them then talk instead of making decision pulling it out of your ego..
Western culture is everywhere in the world. Other races emulate what they like from the western culture. This doesn’t mean they do not have a sense of identity, it doesn’t mean they do not have self-respect.
The Japanese wears clothing heavily influenced by western world, their modern music is also heavily influenced by western culture but if you think they do not have their own identity then you are surely mistaken.
Just like how Americans like Mexican food so much and emulate and create shit like “Taco-Bell” which is 100% american, it doesn’t mean it is sad. That is just their American twist.
The fact here is that you are blind because you are self-absorbed, you have what is known as Superiority complex. In the end you are probably a f-ing racist. Quite sad really.
Western Girls have the strongest desire to date within their race, as our features are recessive to all other races. Once you mix a blue eye blond or someone with red hair and coloured eyes your not going to get those traits back even if the half western offspring marries back into a western population the non western genes are dominant. Thats why most mixed race marriages of westerner and non westerner the baby looks most like the non western parent. Obviously people marry for more reasons than than this and interracial dating is common, but you would be surprised how big a factor consciouly or just instinctively this is especially when it comes to western girls choice in mates.
Whatever, troll. Get the hell over your little racist self. Everybody dosen’t think white men are the be-all end-all and that just messes up the hell up–good!
yeah, your strange honey. good luck to you!
your a traitor a self hater a oh my daddy wont like this girl. Well guess what as a white man I am saying good, fuck off get out of our gene pool, because your offspring sure as hell arn’t going to be blonde haired and blue eyed.
yes your a traitor good riddence.
I’m from Hong Kong and I think the biggest barrier between white girl and asian men is culture.differences. No matter how many J/C/K POP a girl might knows or how many asian movies they’ve seen. They can never understand the “asian culture”. I’m not saying the history, but is the little things like the way we engage in conversation, and the things we say. For example: I might not understand america jokes because I haven’t seen that TV show, movie or cartoon. What do you think?
I love Asian men. I love the way they’re so mysterious and not sexual. My Korean boyfriend flambozzled me in the booty last night and I couldn’t feel a thing. I watched tv the whole time until he came…But I love it! Sex is so overrated, and just downright gross. I just wanna talk about Gundam and Dragonballz, lol IMA NERD XD and I just care about HIS pleasure. Besides, little asian peepees are so cute. and asian guys are so smart. MMMMMMMMMMM….I love superior Asian men. Sorry ugly white guys….you’re boorish faces, overmuscled and ogrish bodies, and oversized penises are disgusting. Also you are all pigs. My white uncle gagoodiied my gerschmorken when I was a little girl….and that just goes to prove what sick dirty perverts ugly pale face white men are. Oh, and PLEASE dont get me started on black men. (PUKE) Love the magazine girl..
sorry I ranted a bit lol
LOL!!
Don’t worry White Penises are not as “stiff & hard” as Asians. Yes ours are maybe 10%-20% smaller but ours have ‘Zero shinkage’ .. unlike white penises which are 20%-25% or more shrinkaged in length & girth when inserted, coz too soft and too weak!! Choice is yours… Bwahahaha!!
I am becoming this girl and I’m so glad a ran across this article to realize it, Thank you! My boyfriend is Asian, and he’s starting to realize that I have an obsession. It actually started with dating him, but now I’m just obsessed with anything Asian, mainly Japanese and Korean. Everything I like is Asian, and because I see Asian faces so much, it;s actually causing me to look at my own face and body in a new light. I judge myself more harshly because I don’t have Asian features. I’ve been googling help, and this article helps some so thank you.
Ok, I speak Chinese, enjoy anime, and when I was a teenager I liked a few k-pop and j-pop bands. I do like Asian guys. Therefore, Asian guys should be wary of me?
Why, exactly?
If I only was attracted to Asian guys because I liked anime, that’d be fucked up.
If I only wanted to date an Asian guy because I liked his hair/skin, that would be shallow.
Those make sense–I’m with you there.
But, according to you, is there any “right” way for a non-Asian person to be attracted to Asian men without raising red flags? Why is it wrong of me to speak Chinese, and think that a lot of the Asian guys I meet are cute?
To be clear, I wouldn’t date a guy ONLY because he’s Asian any more than I would date a guy purely because he has nice hair or some other such thing. I need to get to know the person first, like them on a personal level, etc. And I’m not attracted to ALL Asian guys or ALL of any arbitrary group for that matter.
But why is the fact that I have a tendency to find Asian guys physically attractive somehow sinister?
totally agree
bah no big deal, fine with me, girl with asian fetish just = gettin laid
yeah i agree with this totally…i am chinese myself and i strictly date white girls… in my experiences… you def don’t want a girl who is all into asian stuff…those girls are either weird, ugly, or just plan annoying…. might as well date an asian chick… Jewish girls are my favorite…hehe once you manage to woe a nice jewish girl…you will know whats up… they Work hard BUT PLAY HARDER… after jewish girls…id have to say… french, italian, eastern european/russian, and finally girls of nordic origin… oh and argentinian girls are really cool too…and obviously girls of mixed race.
just beware of the gold diggers… never completely give up everything about yourself… i have had the unfortunate luck to have dated a quite a few eastern european girls who were straight up gold digging social climbing bitches…..and they were really really sneaky sneaky with it as well…
I apologize for the rambling… just got out of a three year relationship with a romanian girl…Today
oh and one more thing… try to look for girls who are at the very most no more than 4-5 years younger than you…at least that is a rule which i like to abide by,…
Heather,
Judging from the response so far, I think a lot of people are really misinterpreting what you are trying to say. I just want to show my support in your opinion, as I do know girls who build their perception and expectations almost solely on media portrayal. (And this can happen to any sort of stereotypes, of course.) I guess I just want to say that people can get defensive and jump to conclusion when the title of the blog is a bit controversial.
On the other hand, as someone else also pointed out, the same applies to Asian guys who have white girl fetishes. Besides the same scenario you described (e.g. “Britney Spears”), I think another one to watch out for is the Asian guys who just want a trophy white girl.
Cheers,
Taiwanese Canadian
I have yellow fever, but on a purely physical basis. I just find Asian men insanely sexy. I know little of the culture and definitely have a lot of ignorance there. I wouldn’t be with someone just because they were Asian, their interests would have to share common themes with mine and we would have to be compatible. Mine is one of merely a physical preference.
I know plenty of girls like this (I have a preference of Asian features in men, so I attract female friends who do as well) and it disgusts me. I have tried to learn at least a little of each major Asian culture, simply because it interests me. I don’t speak Japanese, but Japanese history and art inspire me. The boy I’m currently interested in is Japanese. I’ve dated other Japanese men, Filipino men (which could be considered just Polynesian, but I feel it counts), Malaysian men, Chinese men, Korean men, Laotian men. It angers me when these girls have this idea that Asian men are supposed to look a certain way. It goes back to the stigma “All Asians look alike,” and it pains me greatly for them to think that way.
Haha, you attract female friends who have a preference for Asian features in men? Wow, where can I meet people like this? I’m actually white, but my whole life I’ve been asked if I’m Asian or half, etc, because I have “Asian features” (I have an epicanthic fold; but this feature isn’t just exclusive to Asians but also occurs in Northern Europe as well; see Bjork)
I felt like, because of this, I was never quite “white” enough for white girls, and never quite “Asian” enough for Asian girls… Oh well.
This is too funny. I prefer white and Asian men. I have never dated an Asian man though. I have been with my bf for 5 years. I have Chinese ancestry and have always been fascinated with Asian culture. Just sucks there’s barely any Asians here.
Funny thing is most korean people I have met HATE kpop and think korean movies are boring. So if u are chatting upa date with these things, chances are he’s just being nice and actually you are making him want to shoot himself in the face.
Not even a single word you wrote in this article and even within this entire site mentioning about Indonesians, Malaysians or Philipinos the farthest eastern part of Asia. What you all know about Asian men are only Chinese, Japanese, Korean and a little bit about Thailand, Vietnam and Singapore.. They are all typically different.. Is that what you called “Yellow Fever” as well??
Actually,the most attractive man I’ve ever met was Indonesian,and lived in Batam ^^
I don’t think yellow fever is something that exist really,people like what they like,who cares for the reason? If you find happiness through it who really cares? I Don’t listen to Asian music or Tv or anything anymore. Yet I still teach English abroad,and can fluently speak Korean,and have married a man who loves anime and videogames(I still like VGs tho lol) and all that jazz. He loved me when I was squeeking at kpop idols,and he loves me now that I like to landscape and garden. He has never judged me for being different,and at the end of the day,it never really mattered at all. :3
I understand what your saying,and it is true but not with all.I am a white woman,and I am without a doubt completely attracted to Asian men,and only Asian men.Now though I do love K-pop and all of those other things,my attraction with Asian men has nothing to do with it,and truthfully doesn’t even cross my mind that ”all” Asian men are this way.Truth is,I am just attracted to Asian men.I don’t even think there is a reason for it. I just am.Every person is an individual,alright.I don’t put them in a category even with what the media puts out there.If there are women that do this,going to tell you right now,it’s just plain pathetic and completely sad.Not only that it just makes it harder for the rest of us that are normal.And just so you know,just because I am attracted to Asian guys doesn’t mean that I am going to like every single one.Personality is important,I want to know the person.I love different cultures and yes there are things that I love about oriental cultures,but I am really just one of those that loves the world around me and learning about different things.You can’t help what your attracted to,think it just has to do with your spirit and something your just born with.I grew up around some oriental people and learned stuff from them so maybe that partially has something to do with it.In any case I hope that those that get scared about what I call the ”crazy ones” doesn’t affect you from dating or anything.Believe me guys,there are plenty of normal ones out there.And there is good and bad in every case of every race.
The fact is I am very attracted to white women even mixed white and asian girls. From appearance and sometimes personality. Rap is cool to tell all my bros out there. With a mix of asian and american you got a spice of life.
This kinda amused me. I (a white girl) do like an asian guy, but he is actually the reason I got interested in all that asian stuff… and now I actually like him more. In the world, there are two types of these girls with yellow fever, the creepy ones, which with a glance you can kinda tell they just like your skin color, and those who are interested in you and are normal. These girls either just like different cultures, or grew an interest in asian culture because of a guy.(me).
ow ow a man like this! <3
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I’m British and my boyfriend is American Vietnamese, and I do happen to like anime. Though, I have no preconcieved ideas of what Asian guys are like because of anime, I know first hand what its like to be stereotyped by the rest of the world. (We all know there are god knows how many people out there who think we all sound like the queen and went to hogwarts)
I just happen to like the combo of tan skin, brown eyes and brown hair, and we both happen to love video games, anime, comic books, tattoos and rock music, honestly, we forget that were not even the same race until someone mentions it or until we get stared at in public.
But good post, I know what you mean, my boyfriend is always telling me stories how girls have came up to him in the past thinking he was Korean and then losing interest when they find out he’s Vietnamese. Absolutely baffling.
Your post is ridiculous. A white woman who`s into Asians is warning Asian guy`s… The things you`ve mentioned in your, why I only date Asians, are the same ridiculous like the one`s from the girls you considered as the creepy yellow-fever-patients. Another point which made me sick, was that you kinda offended people who teach theirselves a language in their freetime. You know what, they do something in their leisure time and put effort in it, doesn`t matter with which purpose. It`s so stupid that you categorize people like this or that. What`s the problem to have an interest in some country and learn as much as possible about it? If you start to like the guys from the country you`ve chosen, there´s no problem at all. Other than that since the internet is pretty famous all over the world, there`s a chance for people to get access and interest to some cultures. And is it forbidden to like rock music from Japan if you didn`t lived there? The way you promote yourself is ridiculous. “Finding a girl like me” People like you are the reason why there are bad images about women who are into Asian men, plus unfortunately show interest in different languages and cultures. Which should be something good, as you learn in your freetime things, but yeah…
I don’t like Asian men, I just like my Asian man. And you, Heather, are creepy to me.
Asian women + white men are some couples who are not more bizarre or more numerous than :
– asian guys + white women
– white men + black women
– black men + white women
– etc…
See our family below
https://uploads.disquscdn.com/images/3dbe18ce1d3e8fec138bdc4b024f85347e74f1cd6e6b3f820517a709da05954f.jpg
Asian women are so vain, they think that so many white guys have an Asian fetish. The reality is white guys have no racial preference whereas Asian women specifically seek out white men. Here is an actual university study that shows it’s the asian women who have the white guy fetish, and not vice-versa.
http://www.slate.com/articles/business/the_dismal_science/2007/11/an_economist_goes_to_a_bar.single.html
I’m a white guy and I surely have no specific attraction to Asian women.
Asian women are so vain, they think that so many white guys have an Asian fetish. The reality is white guys have no racial preference whereas Asian women specifically seek out white men. Here is an actual university study that shows it’s the asian women who have the white guy fetish, and not vice versa.
http://www.slate.com/articles/…
I’m a white guy and I surely have no specific attraction to Asian women.
I wouldn’t mind if hot white girl had a Asian fetish, never met one in real life just online. I got a thing for brunettes with blue eyes.
If she’s someone I find attractive and I wouldn’t really care if she fetishsizes me.
I live in France, I have never heard about yellow fetish, white fever, etc…
I seen good looking white dudes with below average looking Asian girls but I never seen hot white girls with ugly Asian guys. Where are all the hot white girls with yellow fever??
I got one right besides me former model. Now a great wife and great mother. Married 10 years. I only dated hot ones. I’ m picky.
Honestly I’ve seen many hot looking white girls with Asian dudes but rarely have I found hot Asian girls with hot white guy. Me and my Korean friends often jokes about that. Ya’ll can have those ugly ones, they need love to. Lol
But really what Asian guy care about yellow fetish? This whole thing is stupid. Obviously if she likes the Asian culture than people are part of that culture.
Sounds like sour grapes because your pretend “wife” was the sex stores display model. What will you do when sex robots are programed to say
“You to tiny me no likey mister dinky dong”
I have a yellow fever, meaning i’m currently obsessed with the IDEA of asian men and their looks,and some of their culture and I REGRET RIEN. Cause it makes me happy and inspired^^
I shouldn’t feel bad about it because WE ALL FETISHIZE PEOPLE WE ARE ATTRACTED TO, TILL WE GET TO KNOW THE INDIVIDUAL AND LOVE HIM FOR WHO HE REALLY IS.
If you think about it, falling in love is an illusion,the first attraction comes from the idea that you form for the person you’ve just met and the desires you project on him,from his outer appearance as well..It’s all superficial. We all do it, even this hypocrite writer of the article..
Plenty of men are thinking “i just need to meet a beautiful woman to have sex with”, they don’t really have you in their imagination as a unique human being . And you know what, it’s ok , as long as it doesn’t stay at this level.Problems arise when we try to connect and form a serious relationship,things should get real then.. till then live your fantasies people with no guilt!
I commented on this about 5 years ago,because I felt this article was pretty inaccurate. I still do. I used to date Asian men a lot,to the point where I though that was all I dated. I was into K-pop and Anime blah blah blah. It has been 5 years and my interests have changed,I no longer like Kdramas or Kpop,and have only been watching Yuri!! On Ice as far as anime goes lol Yet,I still am learning Korean (I am fluent,but still study to keep up with changing slang,and adapting my,what my Korean friends call “super proper old lady language” into a more natural speech),I still have Hangul Tattoos on my body,and I STILL LOVE ASIAN MEN or WOMEN for that matter. I still can rap Epik High like no ones business haha I am married,with a sweet as can be husband,and a beautiful baby boy named Acheron,and I got all of this,all of my happiness from being into these things. I don’t think that you should avoid a women for her interest. I don’t think you should judge a man for what they like either. Who cares if someone has “yellow fever”? That’s not the thing that matters at the end of the day. When you meet someone its up to you to decide if you like them or not. If they are interesting or not. There are alot of people who fall in love with someone who is nothing like them,and my Husband (who is 26,Im 21) is still into anime and stuff,and I don’t really like watching it anymore,but I love him all the more for being able to like something so much and be that dedicated towards something. I think you are underestimating peoples ability to judge for themselves. No one is better then anyone else in love.
If it wasn’t for being a Koreaboo once,I never would have learned of the beauty of Starcraft,that Tablo is still my idol to this day,how to use chopsticks,how to cook Korean food,or my love for teaching English and learning new languages and cultures,I got all of that from being obsessed with Kpop at one time,it all changed my life and effected my decisions. I am teaching my son Korean,and he will have a broader outlook on life because of it. So at the end of the day,was being into that stuff bad? I don’t think so.
You never mentioned if your husband was asian.
Oh Sorry,I though that was implied ^^ yes yes he is from Busan
Yeahhhh Busan city by the beautiful beaches in Korea. And largest film festival in Asia.
Do you get weak in your knees when he yells out “YA” or. ” ashin na ya.” lol.
Busan guys are rougher around the edges than Seoul guys.
I’ve never heard him do so,though I find his accent when he speaks Korean rather endearing,from what he has explained to me they have a different dialect sorta,and when he speaks Korean its a bit different than how I learned it ^^ Like the difference between a country accent and a city one. Its quite attractive,well to me at least ~
people nowadays judge the others too much lol
You need a reality check with the world, buddy. if you hate America because it’s a mixing of ethnicities, then move out to the middle of the ocean and keep your own old-fashioned “segregation loving” culture away from us.
“old-fashioned” haha. I’m not american (thanks God). America isn’t a mixing of ethnicies at all, it’s a salad bowl. Don’t forget that interracial marriage wasn’t allowed in the US. In my country, we never have had any segregation problem 🙂
I’m not saying that people should hate each other. But we should save our cultures, too many people tend to forget their roots.
this is a website for IR dating, u shud go join those white pride websites..trolll
Culture will be picked up by people who want to learn it. In no way did koreans come over and say we are gonna replace YOUR culture with OUR culture. Your being paranoid, and if your so afraid that your so called culture is gonna get replaced why don’t you find a farm somewhere, and start a cult. Fence it off and just stay there with anyone that thinks like you. Everyone else is gonna go learn and do what THEY FEEL LIKE. If people wanna be more like blacks that’s THERE choice not yours, and if they wanna listen to kpop and not what ever your listening to, again that’s THERE choice not yours. No one is forcing you.
Tbh, Busan dudes sound annoying af.
Maybe to some,but I quite like it ^^